Is it normal to be *slightly* bisexual?

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Because that's what I am. Mostly straight, but very slightly bi. I think I was was full-on bi before I hit puberty. I've talked to a few people I know about it, and they told me they've never heard of such a thing. the impression I get about bisexuals is that they almost always like both sexes nearly equally.

Am I alone in this? Not that I care much. I am happy with my sexuality.

If I was to rate myself on one of those Kinsey Scales where 0=straight, 50=completely bi and 100=gay I would say I'm 90.

The vast majority of the population are 'slightly bisexual'. At least according to most people who study human sexuality. In fact, exclusive heterosexuality is a relatively new invention of society. Just look at the Edwardian upper class of England. Screwing everyone.

Just look at Vita Sackville-West and Harold Nicolson.

The majority of straight people are a little bit bisexual. The majority of gay people are a little bit bisexual. You're just more open about it, and honest to yourself about your own feelings.

it's normal. whether its curiosity or an actual preference many people do fancy the same sex a little.
kinsey scale mentioned before:
0 Exclusively heterosexual
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6 Exclusively homosexual
X Non-sexual

I'm a "slightly" bi aspie too. I would think its normal.

I think that I am about a 3 on this scale (although my sex drive seems to be way below normal)

Hi I am Kurt I am new here.
I think the idea of a personal sexual identity is flawed. I observe that the construct of "sexual identity" exists solely in the perception of others and not in myself. My sexual identity is only what I choose to communicate to the people around me and not how I see myself. What I choose to communicate to people around me regarding what I do sexually is only exactly what serves my best interest in a given situation. I can paint a house but not be a "house painter" (as in wearing white overalls every day and carrying paint buckets). I can have an erotic encounter with another man and not have to be "gay", "bi", or anything else. I do not need to attach a personal identity to every activity I engage in. I occasionally eat hamburgers but I do not stay awake at night worrying about whether I am a "hamburger-eater", or "hamburger curious", or maybe "confused about my ground beef status"......I just eat a f*cking hamburger. It is nobody's business but my own and the lucky man/woman/trans/zebra/mutant lemming I choose to have sexy time with.

So, to answer the original question, whether you are "bi" or "straight" depends on how much of your sexual life you are willing to share, who you are sharing with, and why. I believe that you are under no obligation whatsoever to present society with a reflection of your sexual tastes and preferences. It is none of their business.

I'd actually say that's me, but I rarely look at gay porn although I can appreciate an attractive man when I see one.

this is pretty much how I feel. I'm "gay" for sake of convenience, but what I actually get off on is intimate, vulnerable Deep Play predicated on reciprocity of gaze, (in the Lacanian sense of the term).

there are not bars for that, so I am gay in public. it works. mostly.

I think most people have the potential to be attracted to someone of the gender they don't normally prefer. I've stopped trying to describe what I am with a word. I simply like who I like. If that person happens to be male, female, whatever, then that's just another aspect of their personality. Things such as being a nice person, having a sense of humour etc are much higher on the importance scale for me.

There are many variables at play here, age, hormones, genetics, environment, diet, family, friends, mental etc that has an influence of what your survivability is, research shows that anybody can change. There is no right or wrong. this is purely from a objective point of view

I think most people have at least some degree of of bisexual or biromantic tendencies... some people are just more comfortable with that fac than others. I, for example, consider myself somewhat of a "biromantic asexual," to use the politcally correct term. I would say my romanitc interests are about 75% heteroromantic, 25% homoromantic. But since I have no interest in sex whatsoever, I guess it doesn't really matter, because let's face it, most of the world really likes sex.

There is no "normal". Sexual and gender normativity is a myth.

Didn't anyone learn anything from Kinsey?

Just be and do what makes you comfortable, and try not to dwell on it too much. I think if everyone did that the world would be a much healthier place overall.

Semantics.

Sexuality is a spectrum and it's perfectly normal to be within that spectrum. As long as you're attracted to adult (I assume you're above the legal age) humans, you're okay and there's no reason to be ashamed.

It's normal. Few people are 100% straight anyways, most people just don't like to admit it, often not even to themselves.