How can I get a boyfriend? :-/

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I'm constantly debating whether I should seek out an escort or something - not sure how easy it'd be, considering straight brothels would be much more common (this, of course, not factoring in how clumsy I'll probably end up being) - but, ultimately, it seems I'm more passionate than lustful. Also, not sure if this is just delusionally idealistic, but I can see how most of my problems in life would be resolved if only I can love someone... sex must produce some amazing feelings, but I need something to perpetually fuel this flame of passion.

I seriously have no clue where to begin from, though. Most dating sites seem to be only for sex... and there's always about less than ten people from around my area, and they're *always* middled-aged.

My advice to most people in your circumstance is to get out of the house and get involved in the activities that you enjoy, and get involved in them with other people.

Potential boyfriends are a subset of potential friends--and if you don't have enough of the latter, the former are going to be harder to find. This is compounded for gay and lesbian people because well over 90% of the potential partners out there are either straight, or already in relationships. It is compounded even further for Aspies because of our social deficits.

(And as for middle aged men, don't be so quick to dismiss us! )

Well, it depends on why you want a boyfriend, and what he is supposed to help you with. Depending on the answer to that, you could look in the according places.

Contact gay organisations, ask about any activities/night-classes/walking groups/etc. they're great for getting to know people without pressure, without the whole nightclub scene. But since they're all there to meet people too, you've a good chance of scoring. Also, you can be sure you've at least one thing in common - the class/walking, or whatever it is you took up.

You could always try joining groups and things for people who share your particular interest.

Most areas also have an LGBT group of some sort. You could try meeting people there.

The last thing you want to do is to assume one another is gay unless you are very sure of it and have actual evidence to back it up. The lack of relationships is not evidence of that or even show aesthetic appreciation of the same sex (that is not evidence although indicates some potential). You've probably know this already, but I'm just pointing it out.

don't hire an escort. no matter how awkward you are and pretty much no matter how you look, there is someone on the internet who will have sex with you. I wouldn't recommend just doing that, but I've personally found it a lot easier to navigate internet hookups than relationships because you can pretty much state up front and in writing everything that you need to know and it's easier to handle rejection that way. *shrug*

WHY, I'LL BE YOUR BOYFRIEND

...in actual serious, I have no idea. I'm as perplexed as you are. I'm not in a position right now where I want one though. So it's not so bad. (Mind you, if I knew how, I'd prooobably want one.)