Why did this weird thing happen to me at school once?

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I really never thought that my attraction was obvious to anyone, nor was I in the habit of staring or anything, but at one point a teacher when I was in secondary school said that he wanted to speak to me to ask me whether I 'like' another boy in class... forgot the exact wording (this being about a decade ago), but I don't think he issued any threats along with the question (though seemingly erratic, as he did once lose his temper and become violent). I just denied it and that was it... barely thought about it thereafter, besides remembering it. If it was today I'd worry about it for weeks on end, probably... not that I care about others' approval, but the specific situation was weird.

I mean, in my slightly more thoughtful older self I could possibly suspect that someone was trying to prove something; once, in another weird incident (though not as direct as above) I was talking to one of the other teachers I usually talked to about geeky stuff (nothing in relation to sexuality) and this student, who I boarded with and was incredibly attractive (although we weren't necessarily friends), just came in front of us and... must have said something, but then immediately lifted his shirt... to supposedly annoy the teacher? (He just told him to put it back down... I never knew if there was any backstory, but there can't possibly be any logical one, right?) - I, obviously, tried to act nonchalant (and for all I know succeeded... although probably not if they wanted to look at my pupils' reaction or something) - even though it was like the hottest, most random act in history (he had the most perfect, crimson nipples - oh, and this wasn't the same as the guy in the first paragraph, who was kind of sexy but I wasn't really attracted to... so, if anything, they got the guys all wrong, haha).

And so... even though you may not know what everything else was like that I may have missed, would anyone possibly have any speculation as to why the two random events above happened?

sure wish more stuff like that happened to me

I think many people are able to notice what other people find attractive. It didn't take my closest friends much initiative from my part to figure out I like blond and red-haired guys. It's the shortest stare, that distant gaze after some hot person walked by, or a certain kind of subtle smile. Most telling, is probably the look-and-look-again, usually followed by one of the previous states of admiration.

Your teacher in your first example might have wanted to see whether you were having problems surrounding sexuality - it is my experience that teachers often have a hunch on lesbian or gay pupils. The second experience speaks to the imagination...

I don't think you should worry about what other people specifically think about you or your sexuality. Unless it is in a good way and you rather fancy the bloke, of course; then I would perhaps not worry, but certainly take the strongest interest in what the other person is thinking.