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am I the only young gay aspie in the whole of London, teetering towards high functioning? feels that way...

Don't complan about teetering towards high functioning, my friend

There are thousands like you. Probably many more than those who feel they are not so high functioning. The problem is that when you are high functioning, you can bumble through life surviving whatever quirks you have, passing as eccentric and never even know you're an aspie. You develop survival strategies, and seem NT enough to anyone who does not come close enough to notice that you are not. Anyway, that's why you'll often feel alone about it.

I've become a chameleon among NTs, and usually do not tell people about my AS because they won't believe me. If they can't see it, it's not there. I am not going to get diagnosed, because I would have had to fight my doctor over it.

I consider you well off since you are aware and that gives you power to deal with AS challenges if you have any at all. At least you won't have to blame yourself for something that just can't be helped. That helped with my confidence. Most likely, you will be a much better partner to someone than someone who never really gets to know themselves and their strengths and weaknesses. It's harder evolving past a challenge if you don't know it's there.

Hope you'll find peers, though