Gay Romantic

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So as a gay man I obviously like men and I have romantic feelings about men
yet the sex is just not what i want and I only want to be held and cuddle and kiss
but idk
is that normal???

I've heard of plenty of guys who are the exact opposite. They identify as "men who have sex with men" instead of gay because they're only interested in the sex and have no romantic feelings for other men at all.

Anyway, I'm sure there are plenty of people around these forums who can relate simply because a lot of people here seem to have romantic feelings for others but aren't very interested in sex. I can relate to a degree. I'm not completely asexual, but I'm much more affectionate than horny. Sex is nice, but nine times out of ten, I would rather spend an hour making out with a guy on my couch and using him as a pillow than spend an hour having sex.

very normal I am the same way but I have never been in a relationship so I know that sex is not the only thing to look for in a relationship-it is part of the whole but not the whole thing.

I can relate to an extent. I certainly do want sex to be a part of a relationship if I finally have one, but only a small part and only after I've really gotten to know and trust the person. For me the cerebral aspects of a relationship, be it platonic or romantic, are very important. And the main fantasy I have about the guy I like right now (although I have no reason to think he is gay, and in any case he lives 700 miles away) is cuddling with him in bed.

And there I was thinking that I was the only one whose "sexual fantasies" didn't involve sex at all. They usually involve falling asleep on a couch with my face buried in a guy's chest or neck.

Hey, I feel quite the same. I would love to date a man and am 'on the market' so to speak but sex for me isn't that bigger thing either. Obviously I would love to have sex with a man I end up with to show how much I love him, but most of the time I think I'd much prefer the hold him and know that there was somebody there to hold me back.

If you can talk, with the person you are having sex with about what you are looking for. He might be up forit.

This is how I am, too. I don't really understand the opposite position. When I see an attractive guy, usually what turns me on the most is the idea of making out with him more so than actual sex. (Well, that and giving oral. It's all about my mouth to me, lol.) And in the context of a relationship, I'm more interested in physical affection like kissing and cuddling than sex. And when it comes to sex, even though I'm not against the idea of casual sex if I'm not in a monogamous relationship, I think I'd feel much less comfortable doing it with someone for whom I don't have any real feelings.

I feel the the same way

I can relate a lot to this.

And wow, this is an old thread!