Sexuality problems

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Even though I see myself as a man, my body is that of an attractive woman, so men are always flirting with me. I am romantically attracted to men and not women (I really can't stand curves), but I am asexual and I want someone who only likes me for how smart I am. Since I act masculine, submissive men are particularly attracted to me, but I just want an equal partner.

There is a pretty complex web of interrelated issues here.

Starting from first principles, I think you are correct to use the plural, "problems." There are many different issues here, and some may be significant problems, some may simply make your life more complicated, and others may not be problems at all. Only you can know for sure, and probably only after picking apart the Gordion Knot that is you.

Your sexual identity might, or might not be a problem. You identify as male, but you are anatomically female. That, alone, doesn't lead to a finding of gender dysphoria. You might find a way to reconcile your sexual identity with your anatomical sex, or you might find the need to take steps to reconcile them.

Men are always flirting with you. This might or might not be a problem. If the men who are flirting with you are not the men you are interested in, then you share a problem with many, many women. And there are many women who can give you much better advice than I about how to cope with that.

You are asexual. This might or might not be a problem. If you can find a nice, asexual guy who likes you for your brain, then it really doesn't matter what your body looks like. But if you are constantly surrounded by guys who aren't asexual, then you're never going to find the nice, asexual guy, are you?

You are attracting the wrong men. Aren't we all? And maybe this is what lies at the root of these other issues. You are romantically, but not sexually attracted to men, but the men that are attracted to you are sexually rather than intellectually attracted to you. If you could crack that nut, maybe the others would fall away.

I am kind of the opposite: Aromantic, but overwhelming sexual attraction of all kinds.

I fare well with intimate relationships which boggles my mind though, so.