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For me to refrain from being into women? Do you think that if I found a man that I really loved that it could make me forget about wanting to be with a women? (I'm kind of bisexual.)

probably not keep with both

No, I don't think you can turn off being attracted to women any more than a straight woman could turn off being attracted to men. People of any orientation who are in love and in long term relationships still find themselves attracted to other people than their SO, they just don't act on it, if they are in a monogamous relationship. So if you choose a male life partner, it's still okay to look at and get crushes on females and males both. Same goes for if you choose a female life partner. Although, most bi people lean more towards one sex or the other, so if you are primarily interested in women, and only have passing attractions to men, I don't think you should seek out a man just because it would be the easier route socially. You will ultimately fall in love with who you fall in love with, and I wouldn't close off any possibilities by pretending to be straight when you are not.

No. You would love the man and presumably be into him, but you would always feel attraction for women. I've been in love with both men and women, which is fairly normal I think. I'm monogamous, so if I'm in a relationship it doesn't really matter who I "might" favor because I'm all about who I'm with.

I'd say that I lean more towards men at the moment. I mean I've always had really strong feelings for them, but then when I start to think about how nice it would be with a women then I just start to get really confused. When I go to sleep and in my dreams that's really when I mostly start to feel hot for women, it feels good in my dreams and then I usually wake up feeling anxiety about it. Anyway what I like about women more is that I don't ever have to worry about getting pregnant and giving birth to a child, which totally scares me and I also don't have to put up with a mans thing going up me every time and I really don't like anything going up there at all. Though when I start to think about kissing a guy it starts getting me really hot for them.

Sex can be whatever you want it to be. So if you find a man that you're really into, you wouldn't have to have penetrative sex all the time. There's lots of different kinds of sex.
I don't want to have kids but I had a pregnancy scare at 33 (shame on me) so I opted to get an IUD. No more pregnancy scares. How you decide to deal with this issue is up to you and there are lots of options. I've been on the pill before but that wasn't ideal for me. I relied on condoms for almost 10 years and they worked like gangbusters. (don't be embarrassed to keep your own stock of condoms)