Androgynes

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I think I am one. I feel like a mixture or both male and female. I can relate to Richard O'Brien about this stuff:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21788238

I'm mostly female, actually - but years of being pressured to be more feminine have made me hate a lot of things about being female. Richard O'Brien says he's 70% male and 30% female - I feel the same but with the genders reversed (like 70% female.) I'm not sure of the exact percentages, but it's similar.

It's getting to the point where I think I need to do something about it. I've been to see counsellors before, but none of them had any expertise in gender. I will ask my doctor if there is anyone I can see for psychological/emotional support.

I don't honestly think I need extra male hormones at this stage in my life, as my body produces a high amount for a woman, anyway. I might take a low dose of it when I'm older and menopausal, though. I really need to come off the contraceptive pill. I do need some form of contraception since I might be getting another boyfriend soon, so I'll ask them for a copper coil. Ideally, I'd like to be sterilised, but I think it would be difficult for me to obtain - since I haven't had children and I'm not a transman. I know getting a copper coil fitted will hurt, but it's totally necessary- I don't even like being able to get pregnant, whether I'm having sex or not. A lot of help on the NHS seems to be geared towards transmen and transwomen but I figure I could use what there is. I don't need a mastectomy or even a binder, either. I'm not bothered by my boobs at all and obviously I like being a bit feminine.

My two priorities are getting psychological support and coming off female hormones used for contraception. I will then try to increase the amount of testosterone in my body naturally through weightlifting. Weightlifting will also give me more of a figure I would be comfortable with and give me a feeling of strength (I used to do it a bit.)

I've already found a style of dress that I'm comfortable with - a mixture of male and female clothing. I have long hair and wear eyeliner and I like that as well as wearing men's shirts and jackets. What I really need is someone to talk to, though. Maybe if I joined a support group as well as got counselling, I would feel much happier. I know most trans support groups are mainly full of transmen and transwomen because androgynes seem to be rarer but talking to them will help me feel less lonely. I've been hating myself for a while and I need to like myself more.

Are there any other androgynes on here? What are your plans to make yourself more comfortable?

Also,for all the people out there with gender issues, people who stare at us or make stupid comments are complete idiots and not worthy of consideration!

Me. I'm an androgyne.
I am biologically female but have very short hair. I wear guys' clothes...or at least they are unisex.
People usually address me as "Sir"
I'm asexual and aromantic...so far.The percentage for me fluctuates, but usually they are around 50/50
But in my country (Taiwan) people who look like me usually are perceived to be butch/boi lesbians. We call them "T"s
^And to tell you the truth, Ts are awesome. You can call me an asexual T.
^^T stands for Tomboy.
I don't want surgery or HRT or anything like that but I sure don't like my female...traits...not that I have much of them

I'm also androgyne, although I use the word genderqueer. I have short hair and mens's clothes. I don't want surgery, but I'm probably going to ask for testosterone when the time is right for me.

I'm androgyne/queergender as well as polysexual. I'd say I'm pretty close to 50/50, slightly more male if anything. I've cut my hair short, and wear men's clothing, to look closer to my gender identity. Physically though, I'm pretty comfortable with my body; I don't really have any desire to take hormones or change anything.