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Which do you consider yourself to be, if you do? Most people seem to assume i am a bottom for some reason, but i think of myself as a top.

Never done it, so I don't know, but I don't understand why people have to have a "role" and stick to it. Couldn't they be on top one time, then switch to being on the bottom later on? It doesn't seem hard.

I'm neither the "passive" or the "active" partner.

I like a woman on top because I can see her face better when she is on top. She can also satisfy herself better when she's on top; she has more control than she would if my heavy self was on top.

I'm not passive on the bottom, though. I "work" pretty hard, too LOL

Of course, and many people do.
Do you mean you just like to be positioned on top as a female bodied person for purely mechanical anatomical reasons, or are you claiming all the other junk that goes with it too?
I think it depends. Ideally, and especially in view of lots of LGBT+ politics, I'd prefer versatility / switch. Because then we are just people. Equal. There is no other subtext going on. This sort of "roles" thing going from sex to relationships seems to reinforce all kinds of unhelpful attitudes if you ask me - sort of like people asking a lesbian couple "who's the man and who's the woman?"
They're both women. That's the point. They associate "top" with "masculine" and "bottom" with "feminine."
Then you get all the other sexist gendered nonsense - men are dominant and women are submissive, men are active and women are passive, and if you're talking gay male couples, some guys start seeing their role as "top" in terms of relationship dominance - they control their partner, they're in charge, and he must submit and obey. That's edging on domestic violence.
Personally it's changeable - when I was younger I tended to be bottom in every way, because my partners at the time were older and more experienced than I, and I really didn't know what to do so I let them take over. I was down there taking notes. Later on when I was involved with a woman who was more inexperienced than I was, I assumed top because she similarly didn't know how to "do" sex.
Depends on what you like - I must say I do not like being penetrated. I will do the penetrating if that's what my partner (male or female) enjoys, but of course, penetration is not all there is to sex, especially if your partner is a queer woman.

Bottom.

Can you not be both? Kinda switch things up?

That would be versatile and yes you can. I find it more fun that way.

Thank god someone answered. I really thought that was such a dumb question that it just was not worth answering.

Nope....it makes sense.

It provides variety.

I prefer the lady on the top, though. Because she's more comfortable on top, usually. And she can be free to maneuver herself to an extra-special climax.

With me on top, she can't maneuver so well.

Never done it before, but I'd be open for either.

You'll also see people identify as "top vers" or "bottom vers depending on which they predominantly prefer. Then the adjectives "sub" or "dom" are often added to further elaborate on their bedroom behavioural types.

Now the fun part is getting enough experience to know which you like LOL

Now to find the lab partners to make such a discovery........

I don't have enough experience with anal sex to say for sure but when I check out guys (or trans girls) I'm really drawn to the penis. I fantasize about getting pounded. But in practice anal sex is, to pardon the phrase, kind of a pain in the ass. There is lots of set up involved. I mostly prefer oral or frot.

Frot = Front? or Frot = Frottage?

I hate the term frottage because it sounds too clinical but basically rubbing our lubricated genitals together while kissing.

Just wanted clarification that it was, or was not a typo. That's all. Now I understand. Thanks!!

You're lucky. When I see or hear the word, all I can think of is slimy whey curds......