Not liking conventional sexual acts (anal e.g.)?

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Each man is different, and each man is different at different stages of his life. The things that you don't enjoy now may well be the things that you enjoy later. Or not.

The important thing is not to allow perceptions of what is conventional to dictate your sexual behavior. Just because a hookup requests oral or anal does not mean that you are obliged to hook up with him, or to participate in those activities.

See my signature.

Everyone's different.

Maybe that's part of the reason for your breakup. So be it. You weren't compatible. There are over 7 Billion people on this planet, and amongst them there are others who share your exact sexual preferences. Thanks to the internet you may be able to find some of them via posting detailed personal ads as to what it is you're interested in in a sexual partner/boyfriend etc. I know others with similar preferences to your own, or at least temporarily as they're voluntarily celibate to a large extent.

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+1 to cuddling. Sex is awkward and too much work.

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but when it does work it is ecstatically satisfying and tranquilizing.

It's funny but I have issues with being the 'penetrator' in a sexual act. This is perhaps one reason why I am less attracted to heterosexual relationships than homosexual relationships (about 20:80 respectively). If someone asked me to explain it, I couldn't. With my first female partner, we spent the first six-eight months of our relationship giving each other oral sex instead of f*****g, because I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I think I could probably count on the fingers of one hand the number of times I've f****d another guy, and I've had many, many times more homo encounters than hetero. I really have no idea why I have this hang-up, and would love to know why. Whether it's some peculiar trait of my own individual brand of AS or whether it's some personal neurosis that I need to address through counselling.

Anyway, back to cuddling. It's all right I suppose, but if it's done in bed when both partners are wide awake, it tends to segue into sex in my experience. And if done after sex, when you're wanting to fall asleep, it gets too sweaty and sticky and you have to peel apart in order to drop off.

I suppose that cuddling up on the couch (in front of the TV, for example) is OK, but you still tend to get annoyed by posture-related discomfort, cramp and pins and needles, which ultimately make the occasion much less enjoyable than it sounds. Or at least that's my experience -- if anyone has top tips for discomfort-free spooning, I'd be glad to hear them.

^ I find having sex earlier in the day, so you don't want to go straight to sleep afterwards is better. The cuddling after sex then is better. Maybe it's just me and my partner, though, as I'm a woman, so I don't need to sleep immediately after sex, anyway. Neither does my boyfriend need to sleep straight away, which I've heard is a miracle of nature, as some guys fall asleep before they can even roll off their partners from what I've heard!

It's bloody cold at this time of year, so I don't mind the extra body heat. It does get uncomfortable in the summer, but then you can cool off together in the bathroom.

Nothing at all wrong with non-penetrative sex; what matter is what works best for both.

I know people who prefer frottage, mutual masturbation, self masturbation while cuddling or kissing, or the various forms of "Russian Style".