kinsey scale... assexual? help

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I'm feeling pretty confused right now... I did the sexuality kinsey scale and that's the result:

I have never felt sexual desire.
False.
I can not decide what sex I am attracted to more.
True.
I find the idea of having sex with another ["man" if male, "woman" if female] repulsive.
False.
I wouldn't want to die without having experimented sexually with both men and women.
False.
I have no interest in sexual intercourse with anyone.
True.
The gender composition of an orgy would be irrelevant to my decision to participate.
False.
I avoid watching ["gay" if male, "lesbian" if female] pornography.
False.
I can be sexually attracted to anyone in the right circumstances.
True.
I have always been extremely confident in my sexual orientation.
False
I find ["men" if male, "women" if female] more attractive than ["women" if male, "men" if female]..
False.
I would find a threesome with a couple awkward specifically because of the presence of the ["man" if male, "woman" if female].
False.
I am only attracted to ["women" if female, "men" if male].
False.
I am sexually submissive.
False.

Result : assexual
I'm not sure about this result. I do feel sexual desire and I do feel attracted by some kinds of people, but so far I don't feel like having intimate contact. I kissed lots of times but didn't like it, I just don't know if it's because people try to rush things and I feel like kissing is too intimate or if I truly don't like the contact.

Any thoughts on this test? What does it even mean to be assexual? Also, any assexuals here?

The Kinsey question asked you: "I have no interest in sexual intercourse with anyone." You answered "True." That's pretty much the definition of asexuality.

Well just as an example, but for a gay man that doesn't like it up his rear, I'm sure that's what he would have to answer too. There are other sexual acts.

I do agree though that the test probably gave that result due to that answer.

Not really. I for one identify as an aromantic autosexual. I don't enjoy sex with other people because I'm too nervous and anxious to relax in any kind of social situation, especially not in this particular kind of social situation. But I do have a healthy libido and a sexual orientation beyond being autosexual, in the sense of being sexually aroused by movies or photos showing certain types of people. It's just that I find masturbation more enjoyable than couple sex.

As for the aromantic part, I've never loved anybody and don't think that I'm capable of feeling romantic love for other people. I occasionally have a crush on somebody, but that's always very short-lived. And while I often feel alone and wish for human company on some level, I know full well that I could never share my home with another person, much less wake up to someone else every morning or use the bathroom in front of them. I don't understand how other people cope with that.

Anyway, none of this means that I don't have a libido, don't enjoy sexual (self-)stimulation, and don't feel sexually aroused by certain body types.

I think the Kinsey scale is overly simplistic and inaccurate. It neither distinguishes between asexuality and autosexuality nor between bisexuality and the many different versions of pan-, poly- and multisexuality (e.g., people can be attracted to both cis and trans women as well as F2M crossdressers and feminine / androgynous looking men, but not to masculine men). In other words, the Kinsey scale only works within the flawed binary system of gender that is nothing but a social construct.

Most importantly though, the Kinsey scale fails to distinguish between sexual and romantic orientation, which is a very important difference. People can be pansexual and homoromantic, for example. Feeling sexually attracted to a certain type of person is not the same as being able to fall in love and have a prolonged romantic relationship with them.

To give you an idea what a complete sexual, romantic and age orientation profile looks like (sexual age orientation is yet another aspect of human sexuality), I am:

• aromantic (not interested in, and probably unable to be in, romantic relationships)

• autosexual (not interested in couple sex, but sexually active)

• androphile (physically attracted to certain types of masculine looking cis men)

• androgynephile (physically attracted to certain types of androgynes, in my case those of the male sex)

• transgynephile (physically attracted to certain trans* individuals, in my case trans women)

• gynemimetophile (physically attracted to male-to-female crossdressers. This is also known as gynandromorphophilia)

• teleiophile (this is an age-related orientation and means that I'm physically attracted to adults)

• ephebophile (meaning that, in addition to adults, I'm also strictly physically attracted to sexually mature teenagers in the 16-19 age range. Which, btw, is the human norm according to psychologists)

• gerontophile (physically attracted to certain types of elderly people, in my case exclusively to men. Probably caused by father issues, no idea. One of those weird fantasies that creeps up sometimes)


Of course this lengthy profile doesn't describe my non-binary gender identity, which is probably best described as agender (no strong self-identification with any gender, generally content with having a male body, but would like to be more feminine looking. Would probably transition a little if I could start my life over, just to be able to look good in female clothes). Nor does this include any sexual fetishes that are not, or not necessarily, related to human individuals (e.g., a sexual response to materials like lycra or spandex).

Sorry if some of this sounds pretty weird and squicks some people. Humans are odd and complex like that when it comes to sex. Not sure if I should leave this post up or delete it again.

I took the kinsey scale test here: http://vistriai.com/kinseyscaletest/
The "what gender do you identify as?" question was difficult for me to answer because I don't identify with either gender.
So I decided to take the test twice: once as a woman and once as a man.

In both cases this was my result:

I took it and got non-sexual.

I agree with Solitudinarian that the test is overly simplistic. You cannot properly analyse something as complex as human sexuality in a survey of 13 true/false questions. That might be enough for zimbio to tell you what Hogwarts house you belong to, or what breed of dog you are, but it does not even start to get to the complexity of a person's sexuality

What I think can be useful is to look at the questions, and to understand why you made the choices you did. What's the difference between sexual desire, and an interest in sexual intercourse (and for that matter, what's your interpretation of intercourse?). What do these other questions mean to you, and what prompted your answers?

This kind of inquiry can start you thinking about your own sexual response, and potentially identifying the barriers that might exist between your desires and your capacity to meet them.

the problem with the Kinsey scale is it is Binary oriented - works finne for a whole lot of people but not for everyone

as female only attracted to females is easy can get really dicey for some people though (obviously I am a 6, though on forums that as for a number I give infinity actually, I get angry when men approach me anymore)

Hmmm... After Reading those answers I have to agree with you guys. Sexuality is too complicated to be defined by some yes or no questions.


Difficult question. Let's say I have fantasies and I masturbate once in a while (once in two weeks?), but everytime a guy (or girl) flirts with me (suppose I realize they are doing it ) I avoid them and if someone approaches me I make excuses. I kissed lots of times (because I liked the guy!) but didn't like kissing and I don't feel any desire to kiss or be intimate with anyone. I don't think much of sex, there are tons of things more interesting. I also don't think of people sexually, I don't notice "hot" people etc. For instance, my friends say: "wow do you see that hot guy??" and I'm like: "what? who?". Actually all of my friends call me assexual because they have an urge that I don't understand to find partners in parties for instance and I'm not attracted to anyone.
On the other hand, I don't know if I don't feel attracted to them because I don't have any bond with them. Maybe I need to be comfortable first.
This leads to other questions: what is the difference between romantic and sexual orientation?


I thought the difference of friendship and romance was that there was sexual interests in the later. (friendship = love; romance = love + sexual interest) What is the difference then? For instance, I am very jealous about my friend, but friends can be jealous right? I don't understand...
Sorry for the long details but finding sexuality is a torturous path isn't it?

I did not want to take it all - the thing is Kinsey was a long time ago and just the start, prior to a lot of other understanding, we have advanced (a tiny bit and possibly just a few of us since then)

I prefer to think of people defined within a cloud (three dimensions)

your gender from female to male - non-binary, many people stick at a point on this scale some are fluid and some just jump from one point to another, I know people who are fluid and some who are bi-gender.

your orientation - (who you are sexually attracted to) gynophilic to androphilic - this has to do with the gender of the person (though for some people it can be also limited by the person physical sex due to a cultures canalization. or possibly just their own preference)

your romantic feelings - how much or little you desire caring/feelings/relationships/etc

each of these can be fluid either at times in your life or for some people even on a day to day basis.

each and every person is an individual over 7 billion of us and should be celebrated and not excluded for being anywhere within this cloud just because they are not near you or anyone you knows definition in this cloud. Differences should not be used to make us dislike/discriminate against each other. These definitions are only needed to help people find those who might relate well with them.

An androphilic person needs to look for someone who identifies as male. Similar things for the rest