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gardenia_guy
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20 Mar 2014, 2:09 pm

I went to the library today I feel alone I wish I had someone to talk to its a nice day I have no friends



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20 Mar 2014, 4:34 pm

Same here, and I don't understand why. I have people who I think are interesting and who share common interests, but they always seem to start avoiding me after a little while. I hope you can get out and enjoy the nice day!


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20 Mar 2014, 8:30 pm

gardenia_guy wrote:
I went to the library today I feel alone I wish I had someone to talk to its a nice day I have no friends


I got my friends through luck. I'm always worrying I will drive my friends by f*****g up the social aspect of things.

One thing you could do is not go straight off for making friends, but do something with others that hold a similar interest, and just be nice, and friendly. Be polite, but distant. Withdrawn, but kind. Don't do anything to draw attention to yourself unnecessarily. Just be there at the same time others are. Help others if they ask, but don't overextend yourself. If someone starts avoiding you, it's not the end of the world.

This is pretty much what I did at work and at church that got me my friends. I didn't try to be friends, just friendly. Some warmed up to me, others did not.

I didn't have more than one friend until I was 26. Before that, I had maybe one friend at a time if I had a friend at all. They never lasted long.. It took a long time to get friends that lasted. It's been six years since I was 26, and for most of that, I've had the same friends. Maybe it's easier as you get older.

But instead of trying to be friends, just be friendly. If it actually goes farther than that, good, if not, no problem.


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22 Mar 2014, 7:38 am

its funny I have about 82 friends on facebook some family some from school and a lo I don't even know I had 2 boyfriends but it was hard to see them . being gay is hard . having a family that doesn't understand you is hard. but I have a caring therapist which helps a lot.