totally confused about her-help needed

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...so here's the thing...I met a girl she's a bit older than me...she is sweet, intelligent (first one to know what LTP and PNH stand for in neuroscience ), she works at uni where I study, we became really close (not sure if she considers me a friend cuz I don't know what it takes to be officially friend with sb unless they tell me so), we hang out every day, she buyes me stuff I buy her stuff too, we text each other every day etc etc... the point of this post is I'm not sure if she's into me or even if she's straight or not tough she didn't have a boyfriend well I'm not sure if she ever had any... since the day I met her she has that precious goofy smile every time she looks at me (and only when she's looking at me) and maintains eye contact with that goofy smile all the time (I always thought she's laughing at me but people told me I have 'sth to notice about her') even when I look in other direction than back, she touches me all the time, and compliments me all the time...once I told her she got a big plus for her comment in panel discussion about autism, and she told me 'I get it every minute but you fail to realize it ' ...and she lets me giggle her and massage her and stuff like that, she kisses me (on cheeks only lol) I asked her why is she hanging out with me but she just blushed an turned her head away from me and didn't want to answer....
...and I really like her but would not like to ruin our friendship or whatever that is if she doesn't like me that way too... I really suck at 'reading nonverbal cues' because few friends told me about the 'eye contact' and her behavior when she's around me (real friends and they're not mocking me I checked it) otherwise I would never ever noticed it (okay we have eye contact but I always thought she's laughing at me)...she is really straightforward and I know she is (at least) gay friendly, we share interests and same view on life and she is not 'true NT', but neither Aspie... so anybody here capable of giving me advice? cuz I'm clumsy and confused and you know- have no idea what to do...do I have a chance with her or shall I simply forget it?

sry for my english...

I wish I could think of something constructive that might help out, but I'm not sure. Do you think you could find out for sure if she is gay? Maybe mention something to do with LGBT stuff and see if she might indicate something?

She sounds nice, hope things work out.

tnx for the advice, but I really suck at reading cues so I guess I'll wait for her to tell me clearly what she wants lol

Sounds pretty clear to me that she is hint-dropping at you, big time.

I think she really likes you, and is just waiting for you to kind of 'make a move' back.

I feel pretty darn sure about this, however...JUST in case she isn't aware of herself, I'd try to figure out if she likes girls. You can even be straightforward about it, sometime in conversation. Just be like, "Do you date girls?" or "Would you ever consider dating a girl?" or "Do you like girls?"

If she answers yes to any of those, and you like her back, I'd ask her out on a date, formally.

Good luck! I think you have a really awesome chance here, and I envy you!! !