Does anyone not feel androgynous?

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I keep hearing about how Aspies feel androgynous. I don't feel androgynous. I've always been a girly girl. I even went through this stage where I didn't let people cut my hair and I refused to wear pants. The only androgynous thing about me is some of my interests.

I do not feel at all female. I am 100 % male.

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Diagnosed under the DSM5 rules with autism spectrum disorder, under DSM4 psychologist said would have been AS (299.80) but I suspect that I am somewhere between 299.80 and 299.00 (Autism) under DSM4.

Yeah, me neither. I have some personality and behavioral traits that tend to be thought of as less-feminine (I hate skirts & dresses, I have a good job so my husband can stay home with the kids, I drive when we go somewhere as a family, etc.), but I'm secure in my gender identity.

I felt androgynous for a while but I think I might be Gender Fluid.

I've felt like a male trying to break out of a female body my whole life. I was born female, but I know I'm a man. I identify as male on WP and as much as I can in real life.

I do feel quite androgynous, but I don't mind looking like a woman and having a female body. My partner is cool with all my masculine traits. It's not so much a case of being a tomboy or having interests in stereotypically masculine things (I have a few stereotypically male interests, but most women do to some extent) it's more about my mind and some bits of my sexuality being more 'male' than the norm. I'm the one who needs to be more comfortable with, and I'm getting there. I think a big issue with it before was that I was scared I'd not be attractive to men (I'm bi, but equally interested in both sexes) with my traits, or that they might like me at first and then get freaked out when they got to know me. Finding my partner has put my mind at ease about that.

I thought I might be genderqueer for a while, but I now reckon I really am what I present as: a slightly masculine woman - just a variation on a norm. I like that people who are genderqueer or something like that have more of a voice and an identity now; I find it encouraging even if I'm still somewhat in the gender binary myself (however loosely I fit into it.)

I'm definitely gynotropic -- no ambiguity at all.

I've met several Aspies who I (and they) would describe as androgynous. I'm quite sure I'm female though, and even a bit of a girly girl.

Funny really - I was a typical male Aspie geek most of my life ...

definitely female 100%

however there are things I know and do that are socially approved for males, I worked in computers, I am good at math & science, My step-father taught me how to work on cars and repair things. I think of this as being self-reliant not androgynous though.

Nope, I've definitely got the hyper male mind thing down. As far as interests I think it would be cool to design my own clothes but in this day and age I don't think that's even a big feminine thing anymore.

I don't really know what my gender identity is. I feel like I don't belong to either gender. I feel agender.
Counselors have told me I have an "extreme male brain" after examinations but I don't know if that's true. It's true that I feel I have more things in common with guys, but it's just about interests because most girls I know are not interested in video games/heavy metal music/natural sciences, except a female friend of mine.
I know I have behaviours that are stereotypically associated with males, like the fact that I am very content about the fact that due to karate my biceps/abdominals and growing but that's not because I want to be more "macho" or because I want to look more like a guy. I just want to be physically strong and be able to defend myself.
My "male-like" behaviors are not because I want to look more like a man. They are because of something else.

Well, I am MtF trans, but I don't conform to the super girly stereotypes, because frankly a lot of them are unhealthy behaviors. Should I intentionally be 20 pounds underweight for the sake of fashion? I feel like I am already pretty much skin and bones as it is, if I were thinner I would be a corpse I think, yet I've been called fat on the Internet before just for not having a BMI that qualified as "underweight", my BMI is like 21 which is on the lower end of the normal level.

And then, should I wear makeup all the time and every day? I think people often forget how much makeup damages your skin and suffocates it, the girls who wear heavy makeup all the time seem to have dangerously unhealthy skin in my experience.

Somedays I want to explore new hairstyles and shop for skirts and dresses, somedays I want to play Counter-Strike or Planetside for hours. Sometimes I workout and feel like trying to increase my strength which is more of a masculine desire I suppose, other days I want to do nothing but light and bouncy cardio dancing.

I wish to be treated as a female, my legal name is female, I identify as female at the core level, but I am not a princess type or beauty queen type, though I am far from a masculine sort either. I am just who I am.

I don't feel super-androgynous at all. I might dress the part at times (since men's jeans have real pockets), but I consider myself kind of a girly-girl. I don't have many interests that could be seen as "typically male", except video games (even though that's become less and less Guys Only in recent years).

I am a cisgendered, homosexual male.

I have never been in any doubt about my gender identity, and it is fully consistent with my physiological sex. It is only my sexual orientation that is atypical, but that has not had an impact on my gender identity.

Straight male here.

One could be a "girly-girl" and still be able to fix cars--like one poster stated earlier, that's called being "self-reliant."

Hm, androgynous here, but mostly in appearance. My personality floats a bit between the two genders, I think, but yeah, it's mostly appearance.