How to go about a same-sex date?

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Okay, probably ignore the title, how to go about ANY date really.

Hypothetically, say I manage to overcome anxiety/stress/panic and ACTUALLY meet someone else who is gay/bi and then ACTUALLY manage to ask said person out.....

What the hell do you do from there? Surely it can't be like the movies, can it?

Just.....what does a romantic outing entail?

I've never considered this before....

It would be the same thing. Seriously, the movies is fine.

I just took my date to the movies and then out for ice cream. No relationship is like the relationships in movies as far as the drama or the resolution goes, but it really is the same thing as a heterosexual date. You could also go bowling, have a picnic at the park, eat dinner at a restaurant, or go to the local aquarium if there is one.

I always tell people to go see a movie, whether it's a date or you're just meeting someone in person you've talked to online. Even if you don't say a word to each other during the movie, the ice is broken after you've sat next to someone for two hours.

I can't help you from there, though, because I'm socially clueless. Back when I was still dating, I would usually just ask the guy what he wanted to do. My idea of spending time with a boyfriend usually had less to do with going out for some activity and more to do with using him as a pillow on my sofa while watching TV or something.

Or you could skip the date part and just get naked together. Just pointing out that it's an option, especially if that's why both of you are after & going on an actual date is too bothersome.

As for a date.. same thing as any other date, just with a member of the same sex. Go for coffee together, take a walk along the beach, go for dinner, catch a movie, go to a show, go check out something you're both interested in, go for a hike, go take a yoga class together - whatever floats your boat.

Personally I'm not a big fan of movie dates if I actually want to get to know someone a little as there's not really the opportunity for conversation. This could be a benefit if you're not really up for much conversation, or if you're going on a date as a formality only and the real objective of meeting is to hop into bed together later that night..

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It can be whatever you and your date agree on. One piece of advice I will give you is to avoid using your phone. Turn it off if you have to. I made that mistake on one date I went on. While I was using the restroom, he told my friends that I was on my phone too much (I didn't find this out until said friend told me about it much later).