Confused about my sexuality?

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I've taken various sexual orientation tests (I am aware that I should not determine my sexual orientation based entirely on these results, but I wanted to see what they thought). Some came back as bisexual, some came back as pansexual. I am attracted to both sexes, but mostly guys, and I don't really see myself being sexual with future female partners (though I am not interested in being sexually active right now so I don't see that as much of a problem for the moment), which are bisexual elements. However, I do see myself able to date transgenders and gender-fluids, which is a pansexual element.

Have you heard the word sapiosexual? It's attraction to intelligence.

Me personally, I'm heterosexual in a fashion, but when you consider that I've only been attracted to like 5 girls, there isn't a lot in it and I've always considered that it's not totally impossible that I could be attracted to a guy.

In a way, I think the sex part is kinda irrelevant. Even when I'm attracted to girls I'm attracted in a rather asexual way. Their minds definitely come first. The only reason I don't find guys that attractive is probably that me being male, the male mind is so familiar and unexciting for me.

I have not taken any tests, but I have kind of the same problem.

I'm 15, female, not sure what my sexual orientation is. Idk if I'm bisexual or not. I know I am attracted to guys, but I also have similar thoughts about girls too. I do get turned on by girls but I'm not sure if its just a phase or not.

Remember, sexuality is fluid and it can be hard to work it out completely. And if you're attracted to different genders, you don't have to be attracted to them the same amount (For instance, 95% of people I find attractive are woman but it's not just them). Bisexual means you're attracted to the same and a different gender, and pansexual means you're attracted to all genders so if you're attracted to genderfluid people, you're probably pan. (Although if by transgenders you just mean trans women or trans men, remember that they're not a separate gender from cis women or cis men.) Basically though, just use whatever orientation you feel most comfortable with, and don't worry if you change it later.

This is a topic of interest to me and I am currently researching this. There is very little information out there at the moment.

A woman I know couldn't decide what to self-identify as at a LGBT event years ago, so she wrote on her sign: SEXUAL.

That's good enough for me!

Edit: She was in her thirties, BTW.

My advice would be not to concern yourself with labels right now. Yes, they can make such a complex and confusing thing as sexuality seem less overwhelming, but it's so complicated that sometimes it's best just to become more familiar with what you're attracted to and figure out what you identify as later.

For example, I'm almost 21 and it's taken me about 7 years or so to understand where I would be placed on the sexuality spectrum. I experience sexual attraction to both men and women, however I am only romantically attracted to my own sex (female) and my attraction to women is very strong while I've only been interested in two guys over the course of my entire life.

Due to my own morals, I don't become intimately involved with anyone that I am not both physically and romantically interested in and I only see myself ever being in a relationship with a woman. So, because the romantic connection with a man isn't something that I feel, I don't even ever see myself sleeping with a man. For me, the question often was "Well, should I label myself as a lesbian because I will only ever be in relationships with women and I won't sleep with men?"

Some would answer yes to that question, yet I still identify as a homo-romantic bisexual who is more of a "gray-sexual" when it comes to the opposite sex, and I identify this way because I'm comfortable with it and I think it best describes how I feel.

Anyway, my point is that you may not fit the specifics of one particular label, so just focus on what you're feeling rather than what you are on the sexuality spectrum. Things are bound to get complicated.