Finding It Hard

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I am finding it hard to figure out whether or not I am gay, bisexual or straight. I've never really had many girl friends if any in my life, I've always had as much of an attraction to males if not a stronger attraction to males than girls. I joined an online dating site for gay men but I felt quite embarrassed and hesitant about meeting a guy.

Just go with the flow of life and who you are will become apparent to you. You don't have to put much thought into it.

So then be up front about that in your profile/messages/personal ads.

There are plenty of bi/curious guys on gay dating sites & plenty of patient guys willing to meet them and see if they have any attraction to each other. Depending on what you're looking for, you could meet up with some guy for a coffee date and see if you click, or maybe you meet up with some guy with the intention of getting naked and seeing if gay sex is your thing. Or maybe you come up with some boundaries you don't want to cross the first time you meet up with a gay guy - i.e. potentially into kissing to see how it feels, but not open to anything more. Do whatever you like, there is no right or wrong answer. Maybe you find out you are into guys and become more comfortable with the fact, or maybe you use the experience to find out you're not. No matter what, it is what it is and it's not likely to change! So, IMO, may as well just follow through and find out for yourself. That's my take on it, anyways.