Does this mean I'm asexual?

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I don't really know what sexual attraction feels like. It seems like only asexuals are confused about what sexual attraction feels like. I don't really feel asexual. I feel like I'm gay. I just have this stupid OCD obsession with my sexuality. I often think that I'm bisexual, going through a phase or asexual. All of these options make me cry.

I believe things will start to come into perspective, if only a bit more, when you actually find a person you emotionally connect with and want to be with. You may be gay, you might not be. You might be asexual, you might be somewhat asexual, or maybe you'll learn that you really are sexual. Maybe you just need that emotional connection established before you feel sexual attraction- that's not uncommon. Any way that it is, it's OK.

Don't think asexuals are confused about their sexuality. They just don't feel like having sex with either males or females. If you have sexual feelings for females, males, or both I don't think you are asexual. If you're obsessed about your own sexuality, but not sure how you really feel about either sexes and not sure how to enact your feelings, maybe look at it from an instinctual point of view. What makes you comfortable in expressing your feelings to others?

I don't know what sexual attraction feels like either, and not sure if it's because I don't get that, or because I don't know if it is what it is, if that makes sense.

I know it's difficult, and sometimes you might want to find an option that 'fits', but in a lot of ways it really isn't essential in a practical sense to have a term like that to describe yourself with. You can use one, more than one, elaborate, or just say to yourself that you're not totally sure and that's okay too. I know that it might not help to say that though. Hope you manage to figure out something that fits you.

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I think Calstar is right. You don't have to feel pressured into defining yourself. Maybe you'll meet someone and fall in love with them. Maybe they'll be male, or female. Maybe they'll be asexuals, or at least not mind if you are.

Try to define yourself by positives - what you do think and feel and do - rather than categories, which aren't really natural anyway, or negatives - what you don't think and feel and do. Human sexuality is very complex, and everyone's fairly unique. I realize that it might not be all that easy to just forget about it, but I do hope you're not tormenting yourself by demanding of yourself that you live and love by some category.