Question about coming out and chest binders

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I want to come out. I am genderqueer, but I'm not sure what subcategory of it I am. I think that I am androfluid. Anyway, that part doesn't matter so much; my gender is nonbinary. I want to come out so that I can start wearing a binder from time to time and having people see me not as female. I don't know how I should start. I also want a pronoun change. I'm likely going to switch schools next year, so it's a whole new opportunity, and I want to take advantage of it. I also have a question about binders. I plan to wear one only when I feel like wearing one. I hate my genitals, but I feel just about neutral about my breasts, only I wouldn't mind them being gone sometimes. It'd make me feel good that way if I could hide them sometimes on the days that I feel a certain way. My question is, can I harm my breasts from wearing one?

So, how do I come out, and can I harm my breasts from wearing a binder?

I'm not sure, but how about waiting until some guy asks you for a date before telling him why you're not interested? Is it necessary to "come out" in an overt and public way? I'm not suggesting that you remain closeted, but only that you be yourself, in all of your being, no matter what you look like.

(Disclaimer: I'm a gynotropic male, so I have no idea why "coming out" publicly is so important.)

Breast binding? Why place even more restrictions on yourself than what society already places upon you?

I mean, can you just be yourself and cop an attitude of "To Hell with what society thinks"?

Please forgive my utter cluelessness in this matter.

Well, I want to wear a binder so that I myself can feel like I'm not a girl, which I'm not one. I don't feel like wearing it always, because I'm not a guy either. The reason I want to come out is because I don't like the feeling that comes with people thinking a false FACT about me. If it's an opinion, that's different. Opinions can't be proven true or false. My gender is a fact about me, and I want people to get it right. I don't like being mentally grouped with girls. I don't like the feeling that comes with being though of as one. When I was little, I had friends that considered me a boy, and I loved it. I'd rather be a boy than a girl, but I really can't be either with the way I am. I want people to recognize me as a genderqueer individual, because the fact is, that's what I am.

Also, I'm androphilic; I am interested in guys.

Well, now I'm totally confused!

You seem like a nice person, and I hope you succeed in your quest.

As for the binding ... maybe check with your doctor?

Otherwise, here's a Wikipedia article on Chest-Binding. Excerpt below:

If my doctor was useful for anything, we'd have a reason and solution by now for why I get dizzy and pass out multiple times a day. I talked to my friend though, and he said that a good binder won't hurt me, as long as I don't wear it to sleep (longer than 12 hours a day.)

I can't say much for the coming out part because that is a very personal decision and everyone's situation for the best way to come out will be different.

As for wearing a binder, if you are careful then they will not damage your breasts (and I think a bigger concern is wearing one that is too tight and will restrict your breathing). You should wear something that is specifically meant for binding such as a compression shirt (if you can stand to wear one, that is... I can't). I am fairly flat-chested so I can get away with a sports bra, an undershirt, and a loosely fitting shirt. Whatever you do, don't wear an Ace bandage because your breathing will cause it to constrict further, which can cause all variety of problems.

Yeah, I'm going to go with a compression shirt when I can.

hello, i am nonbinary too. you can harm your breasts if you compress for too long (although i still wear mine all day sometimes, it is not recommend though) and please whatever you do, dont use ace bandages! can injure you. here is a link to one of the ones i have: http://www.underworks.com/tri-top-chest-binder

i have no advice on coming out, as i didn't start figuring out gender until after i graduated high school. hopefully you can find a good group of other queer people to hang out with or somethin'. sometimes they are hard to find but i think it makes it easier when you have supportive friends (queer or not). since it is a new place, there will be no expectations of how you should act/dress compared to what you used to do, so i wish you luck!

i'm perhaps mtf.
but i'm not sure.
though i dislike a man or fear,
i want to be like a transman.
i had a comming out for my mom.
at first i said i like a stuffed toy, and then she gives me some.
before it i have gone away from my mom's home with my bicycle only for 24 hours.
because i had felt both my bro and my mom bully me.
still i feel bad with my bro, because my bro says nothing but i feel he want me being same with him.
for me, disgustful hobbies and behaviours.
it is illogical but if that hobbies and behavious is transman's, i think i won't feel bad.

she had and have misunderstood my going away because of only my bro,
it was correct after all.
though i thought both of them are bad for or against me then.

about one week later, after i tried to have a coming out for my uncle who visits our home every year to spend a new year banquet here.
i have said i'm tg.
technically i have written i'm tg because i can't speak these 3 years.
and showed a video about tg on youtube.
then at the top of searching result with 'trans gender' on youtube, was 'living a transgender childhood' and i showed it.

so i think revealing slowly is a better way.
i have done so instinctionally.
perhaps, it was started since i stopped to speak,
and several months later, i have become to put on my cloth only backwards.
then i had no idea i'm tg, i was always uncomfortable but i haven't noticed that depends on tg, even though i dislike a man's behaviour and thought intensely.
more to say i haven't noticed i was uncomfortable even though i was intensely uncomfortable.
i had thought i was just shy and my uncomfortable feeling was trivial.

well... i'm sorry i have written too much including unrelated things.