Really hating my body, unattractive to other men.

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I am 6'4", 270lbs, big bald spot on my head, hair all over my body, poorly endowed, big, fat and unattractive.

When I was a thin teenager, I had no problem getting men to notice me. But I am too old and too fat and too ugly for those days to come back.

I will never again be able to attract another man on a physical level. My sex life has been dead since I was 21. I simply am not beautiful anymore, and I have to learn to accept that.

You sound kinda like a bear to me. Do you not want to be a bear?

You're not gonna be a young twink again, and that is something we all have to accept. We all had our day in the sun, or at least, we generally had the opportunity to be in the sun, even if we passed up on it entirely, like I did.

It's pretty doable to lose the extra weight, and that's something you need to do to be healthy, but other than that, I don't see any problem.

I'm personally more interested in intelligence and empathy myself(and cuddles!), but then again, I'm a very girly trans person, so maybe not your target demographic.

Anyways, I guess it just depends on what you want. Do you know what you want from a relationship?

You're a big guy--you will be attractive to men who seek masculine men--guaranteed.

Being "poorly endowed" probably enables you to have a better sex life in the gay sense. If you were hung like a horse, that would cause problems.

As autistics can be very pragmatic, you could simply see this as a problem that you need to solve and thus, complete the steps you need to solve it. I'm following a similar approach myself with my wildly unacceptable body.
There's nothing wrong with 6'4, trust a little person on this. Everyone likes tall. The hair issues can be solved too as I understand it - there are hair loss treatments (not sure how reliable these are, but they're certainly out there) or, like a lot of younger men with baldness, shave the whole lot off and no one's the wiser. It just becomes an aesthetic choice. As for the body hair - you can get laser treatments on any part of your body, dependent on skin tone, and prices are also quite reasonable. If it bothers you, this might be a good choice. But as said above, there is the whole bear scene who just love hairy guys. Not sure about the endowment, but I know that excess weight can affect this. You might be pleasantly surprised if you tone up how much bigger everything appears. A low testosterone count can also have detrimental effects on your package so that might be worth getting a blood test to investigate. A supplement can assist if the count is low.
The guys who would find you attractive may not be the same as the guys who found you attractive as a stripling teenager (and at 36 it would probably be weird if they were) but they may well be out there in other crowds.