What would count as sexual frustration?

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So... I haven't touched a beautiful guy since at least last summer (but even then, it had nothing to do with love, and that's another 'frustration')... sometimes I'm not sure if sex is really such a necessity as that pyramid claims, as I survive... but love itself...

Don't worry too much; I'm sure you'll meet that someone special who would like to cuddle and do romantic things with you as well as fulfill your sexual needs.

Hmm.

Feeling frustrated about not getting the sex/love you want/need would count as sexual frustration. That could come in many different forms to many different people.

I have a gay friend that hasn't had sex in over 4 years since a breakup. He could get laid in an instant. But that's not what he wants, as he wants to be in love with his partner. I'm not sure if he's frustrated much by it, sexually I mean. I think he's a bit more frustrated with the difficulty of finding a guy that's His type that there's mutual physical/spiritual connection with vs. with a lack of sex at all.

Myself, I haven't been sexually frustrated for many years. I can get laid pretty much whenever I want to. Lately I haven't wanted to as I feel like I'm outgrowing hooking up and would prefer to meet someone I care about to have a relationship with. It's a liiiiiiittle bit frustrating how challenging that is, but I don't let it occupy too much of my mind at all. Eventually I'll meet someone I click with and then that'll be that. In the meantime I have the most amazing friends in my life anyone could ask for, so the friendship connections are completely taken care of.. and if and when I do feel like hooking up, I always have that option, too. There is someone I have in mind that I am hoping to meet in several weeks when he's coming through my neck of the woods.. so, even though we've yet to meet in person and have only had several emails back and forth weeks ago, having someone in mind to meet has been very helpful in the sense that I don't really give a s**t about meeting anyone else until the end of June comes and I either get a chance to meet this guy, or I don't, and we either like each other or we don't. Until I find that out, I'm not really into meeting others. This gives me a good few months to just go hard on things like work, finances, fitness & other goals vs. wasting time chatting with guys online. So, even if we don't click IRL, I at least get the benefit of the value of being able to focus my energy on productive things while waiting for the opportunity to meet him. And then if we don't click, I doubt I'll be frustrated - it'll just be a matter of "OK, moving on... next!" and finding the next potential compatible match to meet. I really don't care how long it takes or how many guys I chat with/meet before meeting The One I'd like to have a relationship with. Quality/quantity when it comes to relationships. I want a true match in every way and am willing to patiently wait for that to happen. I'm 32 now. Maybe it'll happen soon, maybe it won't happen for years - doesn't matter - it'll happen when it happens. So much less frustrating when you have this perspective, IMO. Granted, I'll admit, it's also much less frustrating since I have the option to hookup damn near any time I want to with a FWB or otherwise.

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