How Do I Tell My Family I Am Bisexual?

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If you are reading this, you likely know that I am bisexual. However, in my family, my sister refuses to understand that I have accepted the fact that I am bisexual. The irony is that my sister still has hated her BFF {who also is bisexual} since they met in HS. My sister's hatred of her BFF is not because of her being bisexual, but rather because her BFF's eccentric behavior.

As much as I'd like to openly tell both my mom and my sister that I am bisexual, I fear that they will do something drastic to me. Any help is much appreciated, regardless if you are bisexual or not.

Not telling them is going to cause you stress, not knowing how they will react.

Your only real option is to tell them, if they are adults they will cope, if not it's their problem.
one of my siblings is gay, and I don't care, I mean how is another persons sexuality any of my business. If that is what they feel then they have to go for it, otherwise it makes us very unhappy.
Tell them, and screw them if they don't like it, if they can't accept and love you as you are then they have not understood what family is.

I don't think there would be much of a difference if I told them I am bi. It seems strange that even though my mom works alongside LGBT people every day, she hates LGBT people so much I often wonder if she really understands people who are "different." My sister is asexual. Her BFF is bisexual and she has always hated her BFF ever since they met in HS. Although she has always hated her BFF, it has nothing to do with her BFF being bisexual. My sister also expects me to be asexual because she's asexual.

What sort of drastic things would they do to you?

I never felt a need to tell anyone my sexuality without prompting or it being relevant in conversation. When I had a same-sex partner, I just told my family I was dating them, and I suppose my bisexuality became apparent at that point! Is there a reason you feel you need to announce it?


[Off topic: How can a person have a BFF who they hate? BFF is a best friend, right? If you hate your best friend, they aren't really your friend let alone your best friend. And I think the other F means forever? Maybe she took it too literally and thinks she is stuck with her now? ]

One drastic thing that comes to mind right now is that they would kick me out of the house and force me to live on the streets of Portland.

@ Yellow Tamarin: My sister has never been a very social person. She and her BFF have always had interactions similar to "Laverne & Shirley" or "The Odd Couple." The BFF usually calls ahead of time whenever she wants to visit, but my sister always hangs up the phone.

If there's a real likelihood that they would react terribly towards you for telling them, why would you want to tell them? You do have the choice of being open with friends and partners and not telling your family.

UPDATE:

Yesterday, I officially came out as bisexual to my sister. At first, she thought that I was telling her a joke, but I told her that I wasn't. She then told me that it will be a slow process for her to accept it and I told her that I am OK with her taking her time to be accepting of me being bisexual.