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DailyPoutine1
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01 Jun 2015, 7:57 pm

At school theres this guy, he's low-functioning and gay. He keeps stalking me, staring at me and telling me I'm pretty. I thank him and try to be nice to him but his presence makes me feels sortof uncomfortable and harassed. How do I tell him in a nice way that I don't like him and that I'd prefer if he stopped being around me?


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02 Jun 2015, 7:43 am

Being direct is the only way... just have a conversation, hopefully there won't be any meltdown and it should eventually stop... if it continues on after telling him then that is stalking...



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02 Jun 2015, 8:10 am

DailyPoutine1 wrote:
At school theres this guy, he's low-functioning and gay. He keeps stalking me, staring at me and telling me I'm pretty. I thank him and try to be nice to him but his presence makes me feels sortof uncomfortable and harassed.

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Well there is your problem! Stop being so nice! Don't thank him, either.
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How do I tell him in a nice way that I don't like him and that I'd prefer if he stopped being around me?
You don't. You tell him that he gives you the creeps and that you wish he'd go away. Every time you're nice to him, he thinks that you like him, and that it is possible to win you over. So forget about being 'nice' and just be honest with him.

Look, girls have been putting up with the same sort of crap for ever, and most eventually learn that there are some men (and other women, too) who just don't get the message unless they act b*tchy, hurl insults, and tell the guy in no uncertain terms to stop harassing them. It works.

So next time, just call him a 'creep' and tell him to go away.



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02 Jun 2015, 8:35 am

I wouldn't call him names, I would just say "Stop following me. I don't want to talk to you. Go away!"

If he won't stop doing it no matter what, I would tell the school principal to contact his parents to try to make him understand this is not acceptable. This is very likely not the first time he's had this issue of following someone around. Luckily he is only annoying and not threatening in any way.



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02 Jun 2015, 8:53 am

Just say:

Buddy, I'm into girls. I'm not into guys. Please don't flirt with me.

Don't be nasty to him. Just be firm with him.



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02 Jun 2015, 8:57 am

MollyTroubletail wrote:
I wouldn't call him names, I would just say "Stop following me. I don't want to talk to you. Go away!"

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I'm sorry, Molly, but I can already imagine the response ... "But WHYYYYYYYYYYY? I thought we were FRIEEEEEEEEENDS! Why don't you LIIIIIIIIIIKE MEEEEEEEEEE?"

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If he won't stop doing it no matter what, I would tell the school principal to contact his parents to try to make him understand this is not acceptable. This is very likely not the first time he's had this issue of following someone around. Luckily he is only annoying and not threatening in any way.
Maybe he should tell them anyway, and avoid the inevitable confrontation for as long as possible.