Does anyone here feel like they are asexual or antiromantic?

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I'm a straight women who like men but I wouldn't want to date one. I hate romance. Romance sucks!

I think I am asexual. I'm not sure if I am aromantic or what. I have obsessions with people, and it feels like being in love, but it's not so much that I want a romantic relationship with the person, as I want to be friends and enjoy my obsession. It's confusing.

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So yes. One of those is by you and practically word for word. Why the topic restart?

Captain buzzkill here, with excessive linkage, is definately not getting laid, therefore must be asexual as well.

Gee thanks, and I prefer Captain Obvious, as the links were all from the first page of the forum. I know autistics can be suckers for repetition, but keep a lid on it, people. And asexual - I ain't ruling it out.

I am a lesbian who always says I fall on the cusp of Asexuality due to the fact that I've not ever had much romantic or sexual attraction. I don't hate romance or anything else. Everyone is different though.

There is not an asexual bone in my body.

I also enjoy the concept of romance.

No interest in romance whatsoever.

I'll always actively avoid that.

I'm an asexual lesbian, and proud of it! I am also quite a romantic person, but I only read specific romances [mainly fantasy ones].

Demiromantic asexual here.

bruh super gay space ace here to say that it's totally a possibility that you're ace too ("ace" being slang for asexuality) and that being ace is cool as f**k

detailed explanation of asexuality and the various ways in which it can be expressed:
the thing about asexuality and aromanticism is that it's not so much that you don't date or don't have sex, so much as you aren't attracted to people
to clarify, to be asexual or to be aromantic is to lack sexual or romantic attraction to some degree
i want to specify "attraction" because many aro and ace people still have sex or masturbate or date

that aside, being aro or ace requires, more or less, the split attraction model
the split attraction model puts forth the assumption that any given person is attacted to people in two different ways; sexual and romantic. for example, an asexual person such as myself may not be attracted to person but we may still want to date them. this is normal and healthy.
to flip to the other side, an aromantic person might want to have sex with a person but they may or may not want to date them.
some aro or ace dislike sex or romamce to such a degree that it disgusts them and they are called sex or romance repulsed.

there's also many different kinds of aro and ace
for example: queromantic, graysexual, demisexual
i don't feel like explaining those individual terms but those are great jumping off points for your own research into the many different ways in which you can be aroace ("aroace" being a colloquialism for aromantic asexual) and queer (something personally love being <333)! !
source: me

I get this too!
Although sometimes I do feel something that I could say is a sort of sexual attraction, but I have not an impulse to act on it? I say that I am demisexual, but to be honest my feelings are so fluid that on some days the very idea of romance and people touching me repulses me.

Same. I wish I was aromantic. Falling in love when you're an agender genderfuck person with depressive tendencies and alexithymia that hates corny romantic s**t and isn't interested in commitment sucks. Plus I very rarely experience sexual attraction so with luck I'd wish to have a f**k buddy or a lover, but nothing else.

Not truly, but I can relate to those who are.