The gay age gap

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Seems to be a common thing amongst gay guys for their to be quite an age gap between partners.

I'm definitely ok with that seeing as I've always been attracted to younger guys.

The thing is, though, that most gay guys don't seem to be interested in dating/relationships until their later 20's early 30's.. so the probability of finding a young 20something guy interested in dating is kinda slim. Still, I'll keep my head up and eyes/ears open because you never know when there might be someone I click with.. but sometimes I think I might be waiting quite some time yet.

A friend of mine is 29 and only attracted to older guys. He had a ltr earlier on, so maybe I'll find someone like that interested in that kind of thing.. but now his partner is 45 & sometimes I think I might be destined to just focus on my career plans for the next decade or so before meeting someone interested in a connection vs. a hookup. I know, first world problems indeed lol.. such a problem to have that I might have to spend the next decade or so like the last, hooking up with hot young guys lol. But seriously, it gets old and almost boring & everyone wants what they can't have, so I look forward to a shift from the same ol' to dating and an eventual relationship. I think I've bothered to hookup like once in the last 5-6 months because I had better things to do, like go to the beach, or sleep. I know, I know, first world problems indeed when all the young guys just wanna F.

/whining

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When I was in my early 20's (mid-1980's) I lived in communting distance from San Francisco and used to know quite a few of gay and lesbian couples with age differences of like 24 versus 42 for example, and from what I recall the length of the majority of these relationships would usually run on average about 6 months. With same sex marriage now legal, perhaps we might expect to see much longer success rates today?
FWIW, the longer-lasting couples I knew seemed to have ages of less than ten years apart.
A big exception to the rule back then would have been "daddy/boy" couples practising the AB/DL or other fetish scenes, which often endured for years, not months because the age difference was the primary basis for their relationships.

OK... lol. Not my thing.

I don't really have much personal experience with dating/relationships or with knowing very many gay couples, so I'm not really sure if what you've observed holds true here or not. Time will tell I guess.

I'm a lot more well versed in the... internet hookup culture. But as I've said, that's grown old & boring and I've shifted gears towards chatting with guys I'm actually potentially interested in beyond a hookup. Eventually it'll lead to actual dates vs. hookups, and then eventually a relationship.

Time will tell how much of a challenge it is to find someone with mutual attraction/relationship interests and how long it lasts. If it happens soon, or years from now, whatever - it is what it is. One thing's for sure: I'm not going to settle for a relationship with someone out of convenience. If I were going to do that I'd have accepted one of many offers to date over the years already. Gotta be the right person to be worth while.

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In relationships as well as friendships, age was never really important to me. I have dated women 9 years older than me, some 5 years younger, some men around the same age and some 20 years older. I have friends who are 20 years older, some around the same age as me and a few that are a few years younger. I guess in gay relationships, yeah the guys seem to care less about age than women who I've met do, even though age doesn't really matter to me.