Is there a in-between surgery??

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ever since i was young, i was unhappy being a girl, deeply unhappy, and things didnt get better during puberty.

Im 19 now and i still hate my sexual organs and gender but i dont necessarily want to be a boy..

Is there any in-between surgerys out there, like a hysterectomy and getting rid of my breasts and just keeping it there?

Of course there are hysterectomies and mastectomies.

I would opt for getting your Fallopian Tubes tied--yet with the option to get them untied should you want children when you get older.

Many autistic women have kids, and successfully raise them.

There are FtoM transpeople who undergo mastectomies and hysterectomies but don't undergo phalloplasty (genital reconstructive surgery), either by choice or because it's too expensive and not covered by their health care insurance (my guess is that the "too expensive/not covered" happens a lot more often).

A doctor who specializes in gender issues would be better able to tell you what the options might be for your particular situation -- and you'd have to be evaluated by that kind of specialist before you could receive any medical interventions anyways.



That's a good option if the issue is that you don't want to have kids, but for transgendered people that is not the issue (or at least, it wouldn't be the only issue) -- the issue for transgendered people is that the reproductive organs they are born with are "wrong" and for many transpeople it's a problem just to have those organs in their body (either just to have them there, and/or because they are producing the wrong hormones).

Many trans people very much want to have children of their own. Some who otherwise need it put it off to have kids, some forego it altogether and some store zygotes before having lower surgery if they can afford it.

But I have a feeling that might be getting off topic.

ZombieBrideXD, trans people have exactly as much or little surgery as they need to feel comfortable with their bodies. Same goes for hormones, dress, social gender role changes...everything. There really is no pure sex & gender binary, so everyone exists somewhere on a continuum. People who medically transition have to find where "their" spot on that continuum is. A gender therapist can help, but it's hit or miss as to whether you get a good one.

That said, there are women who do not consider themselves transgender as they don't identify as men. They tend to be labelled as butch or soft butch, but that's because femininity is considered the default. They are just themselves. Some have top surgery, some have top and bottom. They very much tend to not have phalloplasty as they don't want male organs; their spot on that continuum is somewhere to the middle. Personally, I think as a group they tend to be very nice people, btw.

Before considering something so permanent, though, I would again recommend at least trying to find a good gender therapist if it is possible and practical. There can be other reasons for disliking the sex of your body, and sometimes people can even hide those reasons from themselves if it was caused by trauma. Always best to be sure, if you can.

I would look up the "agender" or "neutrois" identities, OP, they might be a starting point for exploring nonbinary identities. You should also have an easier time finding resources for people who only partially transition.

I'm an AFAB genderqueer (non-binary) person and I second this; personally I don't mind having female genitals (my curvy body shape annoys me a lot though, but I solve that with loose clothes and sport bras) but I really hate most of femenine stuff and mentally I've always considered myself gender-neutral, so I work in having a rather androgynous/unisex presentation and I've been feeling a lot better now ^^ try researching about non-binary stuff, it might help you 'cause I felt like you before as well