Aromantic, or just a late bloomer?

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I'm currently 14 (turning 15 in late December), and I still haven't felt any romantic feelings towards anyone, nor an urge to be in a relationship. I'm a bit stunted in mental and social growth, as I didn't start really feeling sexual attraction until I was about 12. I still see certain people and think "Man, that guy/girl's hot!" , but I never really feel the urge to tell them or start a relationship with them.

Aromantic? Late bloomer? Is it because of my Asperger's?

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Just enjoy it while it lasts. Don't worry about romance until it grabs you. But definitely work on having friends, as having friends is a pretty important stepping stone to romances, if and when you ever decide to get to that

You're still young. I agree with Cinnabot's advice.

It's not worth trying to be something which you're not. Just because society says you "must."

I'm aromantic myself, though I questioned if I was a late bloomer for different reasons. In my opinion, if you feel like you're aromantic and feel comfortable with the label, so ahead and use it. If you later do experience romantic attraction, maybe look into it a little more. You could be sometimes or part aromantic (gray-aromantic, aroflux, etc.). Even if you do chose to identify as aromantic now, but find out you're not later, it's fine. People change. Just identify like you want.

I'm fairly sure there are even labels for people who specifically feel like their autism/aspergers/neurodivergence cause their being aromantic. I don't know what they are off the top of my head, though.

I was the same as you for ages until I figured out it wasn't being romantic that ever troubled me, I just don't like wasting words so I can maintain a sense of calm around it...

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