Can't afford to fall in love

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Hi, I need advice so how you deal with feelings for people in a more business-like place, even though casual and friendly.

I thought I had a crush on a woman in a group work and told myself it was ridiculous, that it was just something friendly -and that it is normal (?) to develop such feelings sometimes.

The thing is these feelings have been growing and I still to tell myself it's ridiculous, and probably is anyway. I don't peruse her or initiate anything but I'm sure I'm sort of awkward around her. I can't think logically.

I don't think she's into women. I think I should just say nothing to anyone irl. But I damn need to talk about it.

Some organizations have anti-frat. policies...you should check.

Initiating with someone when you don't know their sexual pref. is very difficult and stressful.

Do u know if she is single?

Sometimes you have to just blurt out "I find you attractive and I'm wondering your sexual orientation?"

I had a man do that to me once.

It is risky though and can backfire.

Good luck

Thanks for your message.

I don't think I could EVER do that lol

I think she's straight as I heard she was with a man. It's an educated guess that she still may be. That's a serious no-go for me in any case. Bi or bi-curious, I have no way to know that really.

I think I should just shut the hell up there. People talk. I'm putting distance - before it gets too far - , but the thing is the feeling is there. I'm a grown woman lol so I can rationalize. It hurts, but it's a good thing to talk about it. And stay busy. I don't see her all the time either, but when I do, it's like all efforts disappear.

I just try not to hope, and enjoy whatever I'm given and give what she can receive. So far. The situation will actualize.

It is really hard, even painful.
All my best to you.

Thanks a lot