A good article about a girl whit Aspergers

Post Reply New Topic

http://www.specialkidstoday.com/article ... ield-3823/

This one is one of my favourite articles because I can relate so much to her.



And my new obsession is to read articles about Aspergers, autism, ADHD, dyslexia etc etc.

Do you like it too????

HEELLLO?????........ANYONE THERE???........HELLOOOOOOOOOOOO????! !! !................

the article seems to have a pretty negative look on AS, throwing around words like suffering and pain.

hmmm, I dont see it like that, anyway....

I don't see it as too negative, I see it as unbiased.

lol, to me it was posted at 5:26 am =P


There are more articles in the first forum (general autism discussion), the articles I've found have [article] in the title.
Welcome to WP (:

Last edited by computerlove on 15 Feb 2009, 12:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think it is a fair representation of AS. The author doesn't appear to be making it out to be a tragedy, but is just pointing out the kinds of challenges that face a kid (and her parents) growing up with AS.

I especially like the end of the article - "She's a neat kid. She's just tied up in a strange package."

As an aspie adult with an aspie daughter, it's hard to read but its the truth. I was a little milder than the little girl in the article. High School WAS horrible. I had such a tough time keeping up with schedules, staying awake in class, understanding directions...

I wasn't diagnosed until recently so its painful to read this and realize it was the Aspergers not that I was dumb, lazy, incorrigible, overly trusting, wreckless, irresponsible, or rebellious. (I was all those things and more - but there was a reason). I wish I had been diagnosed. My mom had no clue how to deal with me and kicked me out when I was 18. Young adulthood was extremely hard. I didn't know how to take care of myself.

My saving grace (besides resiliency) was when I met and married another aspie when I was in early 30's. We have the exact opposite skills so its like yin and yang. I am horrible with money. He's bad with a bunch of other lifeskills. I hate to admit it, but it works. Money can destroy an aspie's life so its nice to find one who is good with money but can't dress or feed themselves. I can make money and talk about money but I can't keep money and I have a tough time with bills and checking accounts. Blah... So, in many ways we "complete each other" ha ha! Corny but true in this case. (I don't know if you know that line being in Norway. It's from Jerry Maguire - a really sappy (overly sweet) movie)

ANYWAY, we have a five-year-old daughter who is much worse than I was ever as a little kid - which concerns me. On the one hand, we are a family who has learned to thrive with each other. My husband and I both work from home which is a curse and a blessing. So, we muddle through day to day. But when we have to enter the "real world" - like go to the grocery store, we never know what's going to happen.

My daughter "won't" go to preschool. We tried and just couldn't get her through the front-door. And everyday got worse, because she remember the melt-down from the day before. So, I am 'home-preschooling" her which is painful for an aspie mom - especially one with ADD. (To be honest, we watch a lot of Nick Jr., etc.) I honestly think she was too smart for her group. They put her with "babies" because she didn't know how to use scissors! Can you imagine? And it was our fault. We just didn't let her play with scissors!

My daughter is totally unpredictable with strangers and other little kids. She has no problem chatting up people - when she feels like it. She's sweet and funny and polite. But if she doesn't feel like it, she melts down and cusses and threatens violence - totally freaks out. I won't even go into how painful that is to have other parents and people without parents look at me. Its painful around my judgemental family and friends who just think I "give her too much sugar" or whatever.

I hear aspergers can get worse as it passes down genetically, especially when both parents are aspies.

The GOOD NEWS - my husband and I absolute social delights now - in our 40's. Aspies can learn to be masters of social graces - especially if you make yourself get obsessed with language, manners, and social rituals. Aspies can be excellent mimics. My husband is one. It used to annoy me because he'd like go through all these "personality changes" - but now I understand why he does it. He's in sales - so its a valuable quality. I'm a mimic, too - but I'm much more reserved so I don't think its as apparent.

We also read a lot of motivational stuff, like Dr. Dyer and we're obsessed with feng shui and other Chinese practices and beliefs. These are good hobbies for aspies because it gives back. People will roll their eyes but trust me. That stuff works.

Ooooh - long post. Hope it helps.

I liked the article.
It made me reflect on the way I was as a kid.
Creepily similar....but not diagnosed with anything...was not put in special ed classes...

In Jr. High I had teacher mentors who sorta looked after me and kept me busy.
I don't think that was part of any sort of program..they just did it because they didn't know what else to do with me. One of them happened to be a special ed teacher though.

hahahaha!! !! get a new psychologist lol!!

i actually did like that article. the bit about "they can't make friends" was actually really true for me. i had one really good friend in 2nd and 4th grades, but she moved. 5th grade was hell on earth. i had no friends whatsoever and because i was so different, i was treated like a freak(honestly, if i had been a guy, i probably would have been beat up...multiple times). as it was, things didn't get much better until almost the end of 8th grade when a few people started to stand up for me. sophmore year in high school (10th grade) got even better and this year, my last year before college (god save me), is the best!

Music is life wrote

That article explained me perfectly. Kind of like a heatseeker landing on the engine of my plane.

I actually had the sam predicament you had. I only had about two friends during the 4th grade, and when 5th grade came I was treated like an inferior creature at school. Of course, this didn't get better, and by 6th grade I was called gay because they asked me who I liked or else they'll call this guy to beat me up, and I said this one boy's name (I not gay; I thought they meant like as in a friend; Love has another definition.) Then the boy called the assisstant principle, and when I tried to explain to them what these guys did I got in trouble. Even the teachers didn't like me.

7th grade wasn't any better for me. I was treated as if I was dumb and wierd in that school. They still called me gay. Life really didn't get any better until the middle of 8th grade when those idiots finally grew up and accepted me for who I am, but they didn't fully accept me until now in my senior year of high school, but they still don't join me in their conversations, and now I'm having temper tantrums at home. I guess aspies won't be fully accepted after all.

So, all hell broke loose just because the neurotypicals didn't know that I had Asperger Syndrome (diagnosed in 8th grade.) So I hope this child won't go through the pain I went through. I mean, she's really smart, and maybe with that she can contribute. In fact, I hope that we, aspies and auties, contribute so we can prove the neurotypicals that we're not dumb, weird, disabled.

It was hard to read, but its the truth. It did describe the troubles of Aspergers, though a bit negatively.