First date ever?

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Ok, well I'm new here, so bear with me. I'm 19 and from the US. (I don't know if that means much as to where I'm from, but maybe in other places in the world, the customs on dating would be different.)

So here's the thing, I think tomorrow afternoon I have a date set up with this girl that lives near me, I don't know if it would be considered one since we haven't talked too much. But we have a time, day, and plans for it, and I know I'm attracted to her and I'm pretty sure she thinks good of me. But I've never been on a date with a girl before, so I really don't know any of the etiquette involved in a date.

What I'm asking here is where would be somewhere good to go. The do's and dont's of making it successful. And things like what to wear, and should I pay for both me and her, or just me etc...

Thanks for your support

Do you share similar interest? That would lead you to what your activity would be. For example, if you are both movie fans, then a movie would be good (although there are many people who would say a movie would be bad, because you can't really get to know each other at a movie).

If you love food, then a restaurant would be good.

If you're both into history or art, a museum would be good.

If you've got a favorite sport, then either playing it together, or watching it together, would be the way to go.

Snag a girl friend who is your age, and ask what you should wear. I would go for jeans and a nicer shirt, with a good jacket. Apparently shoes are a big deal nowadays. I've just come to the realization that Etnies shoes are the "in" type of shoe, so maybe get a pair of those.

If you're inbetween 16 and 25, attending a concert for a band that you both like would be a good possibility. You can talk in-between sets, and concerts are always fun things to attend. Try a smaller venue, not a big stadium event.

Hopefully other people will give you good advice as well. I'm just basing this on what my two kids (ages 16 and 21) would do.

Kris

Well etiquette in teen dating is probably a thing of the past. I mean if you are thinking of formalities such as pulling out the chair, ordering for her and what not. These things are likely to make it feel awkward more than anything else, unless of course, they are natural and sincere. So I wouldn't worry about that stuff too much.
The most important thing is to make her feel as comfortable as possible and for you to learn about each other and establish some rapport.
So be attentive to her feelings and likes or dislikes.
But also, lead the way so that she doesn't feel bored or pressured to make too many decisions.
Try and find something that you both can sort of laugh about.......but don't try too hard.
A good approach is usually to ask questions about her life, get her talking about herself, then find some humor in the things that she tells you, this eases the tension and makes the conversation run more smoothly.......but of course don't over do it.

You want her to get the feeling that you are generally interested in getting to know her better, and sharing some happy times together. This is the key to a good first date I think.
Leave her wanting more.

To address a couple of your specific questions, I would offer to pay, and if she didn't want me to, that would be fine too.
What to wear ? Be comfortable, but wear something appropriate to wherever you are going.
Where to go ? That is a tough one. Dinner can be good, or it can be like an interview.
Movies don't allow for conversation.
Walks are nice, or just finding a place to sit in a park.
These are just my personal opinions.
Each person likes different things.

Well thanks for the advice guys. I used some of it, like offering to pay, but she said no, so i didn't. And without insisting, she said other guys did insist, and she didn't like that. But I think out of all of it, it went pretty well for my first date.

But now, what do I do to try to get another? like just call her to see if she wants to do something similar? I've heard that you should wait no more than 3 days or it makes you seem not interested. So I was thinking I would Friday afternoon? Today was just to go get some coffee and talk, and I let her talk about herself, which she seemed to enjoy doing, but I didn't let her do all the talking. But I did talk my tumor a bit, but I will try to refrain from that.

But thanks again for the input, and I would greatly appreciate some more advice, if it isn't too much trouble.