Do aspie women also like jerks?

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Do fictional jerks like Seifer count?

women don't like jerks. women like assertive confident men, just like how men like assertive confident women (or at least i do). sometimes they confuse this with a man who SEEMS confident. of course by the time they figure this out all the good men have been taken.

I think the problem is when people lump all men and all women into easy to define categories taking away individuality due to what society has programmed into kids the do's and dont's of masculinity and femininity.

Everyone has their different likes and dislikes. One person may be a serial looks dater and will only date people that have their certain look in mind.

Another person will have dated a variety of people with different looks.

One person really must have someone who is intelligent because it's important to them.

Another person must have someone who is not intelligent because it annoys them.

There is no true gender correlation that lumps all women and men into set categories considering there are feminine men, masculine females, females and men with mixtures of masculine and feminine essences

People with positive masculine and negative feminine. People with negative feminine and positive masculine. People with negative feminine and negative masculine. People with just negative feminine. People with just negative masculine. People with just positive masculine. People with just positive feminine.

Then on top of that are interests and hobbies factor.

On top of that comes the how one goes about dealing with situations

Now add on top of that if the positive or negative essences of female and male nature is a result of how they dealt with a situation.

I do know that physically we are male, female both. I think what is often ignored and left out of the equation are the essences of feminine and masculine. Some things are taught through society regarding roles and behavior, what is acceptable and what is not but those things not taught to us or we just trailed off and did our own thing ignoring such rules usually end up with mixtures of both essences.

This is the short version.

What I am attracted to is not something the next person sitting to me is attracted to.

Good point. This topic should be offered as a poll. Then, we'll see how many women prefer jerks, and how many men prefer jerks.

I personally do not fall in love with jerks.

I have however dated jerks not knowing that from the very start they were going to turn into jerks.

The person at first was charming, nice, we had things in common. Months go by and he just couldn't keep up with the nice guy facade. I didn't know what happened. I was confused. I was thinking is this jerk the same guy I first met and liked? I stayed around a few months more hoping the nice guy would come back and it didn't happen. End of relationship.

Lesson learned.

That happens so often and it's just as well you didn't end up marrying him too.

Some good stuff in this thread, esp. about stereotypes.

The other thing is that relationships really need work and effort. People have bad days, bad months, etc, and sometimes people under stressful situations have some personality changes. Jerk hasn't been defined, but I'm quite sure it has as many definitions as we have people on this forum.

And Sooooooooooooo......just exactly how does one be a Jerk?

I will say one thing though, some jerks can be irresistible.

Like this one, I could see aspie women falling for it and I'm pretty sure I would:



Mmmm, where's Emeril to quamment on this?

Falling for Jamaican jerks at least isn't a sign of self abuse - just means your taste buds are in good working order.