Just goes to show how much I know about people here..

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I was browsing through this forum after I had posted a topic and noticed that a certain (cute) girl lives near me. I sent her a message telling her she was cute and that I lived nearby too. To my surprise, she replied with a very friendly email. We talked a little over IM and I asked her later if she wanted meet up for some coffee. Then, her communication with me stopped even read my invitation email to ask her out.

I guess I thought some of the people on this forum had a different mentality when it comes to honest communication, but I guess I was wrong. A big letdown, if you ask me.

im convinced girls who have dating profiles online like flirting more than going out with an actual person, maybe you should go to autism meetings and meet people instead of doing the online dating thing, (thats what i plan on doing btw) your pirdicament is exactly why this player doesnt do online dating

You feel let down, so you're whining about it here, probably hoping she'll read this and get upset. I'm sure she doesn't really care. Nice try anyway.

no tellin what happened

try try again

gl

I've stopped trying for online things
nothing but hell!

You should kill her*













































Seriously
*Check all applicable laws and regulations in your state.

Last edited by Kalister1 on 18 Jan 2008, 10:50 pm, edited 2 times in total.

okay man that's f****d up

Im just saying, it'll definitely be an outlet for him. Always good to let out your feelings.

its illegal to kill people man

Oh okay. Thanks. I'll put a disclaimer

your first mistake was telling her she was cute. your second mistake is letting people know it bummed you out. if she reads this, she wont care. honestly you need to track down the butterflies in your stomach and kill them. dont crush over girls. aspie girl or not, she probably didnt find the fact that you liked her and put it out there very attractive. chicks dig jerks. thats a fact. girls here might try to argue that its not true but it IS. sensitive nice guys arent attractive to women, unless they want to use them for something. they want a guy who doesnt really need them around. the only girls i attract are the ones im ornery with.

Like I said, if you kill her, it's like the ultimate jerk thing to do. Bound to get her in the sack.

I've never tried it though. Tell me if it works.

I don't follow what your complaint is. I do but I don't.

Is it:
I initiated conversation with a stranger who was cute and because she lived near me. When I got around to asking her out, she said no.

Or:
I was browsing.
(and noticed a cute girl)
(who lives nearby)
So I......initiated communication.

I was hoping

For what? Hoping is not the same thing as sharing/speaking/communicating. It is abstract and hidden. It seems like you were hoping for something but never actually shared/cleared that with her *in advance* of asking her for a personal meeting. Was she hoping for the what that you were hoping for-or something else? How do you know? I mean, what is your rationale, exactly for saying "just goes to show you"?

Were you honestly upfront about your hoping being a 'meetup' *in advance*? If not, you have jumped into the water and are curious why you are wet, my friend. As well, things do change. You said yourself-total strangers. To be offended that some lady you know nothing about does not want to risk unknowns by jumping into something so personal as meeting whoever you are-seems odd.

Were you honest?
I think not. Here is why:

You said,
"She spoke to me-I was so surprised." (Why? Why? Why? Why were you surprised?)

The problem of your disappointment likely is in your self answer to the above question.

I think you decided to ask her out becasue she spoke to you, and because she lives nearby, and because she is really cute. You thought you should meet for real, but she didn't respond to that the way you had hoped.

Again, was she hoping for what you were hoping for? Again, what you've left out is that it was you who were dishonest.

Unless of course that is not the case and you've left out that you were totally upfront about the reason for your initial communication as being- your looking for a date with that person because she is really cute and lives near you.

I surmise that your heartbreak comes from the following:
SHE answered the very nice mail you sent with a very nice mail of her own-

What does that say? That she is polite. That she loves her WP family. That she was curious why you were mailing. It really could be anything.

Please think to be more careful with the people who you impose yourself on. You don't know anything about her, but here you are.

Like you are not the 14,000th. Your introduction very well might have been that last thing on earth she wanted to hear. And maybe she is still in the process of learning that being contacted by a male is not for friendship as the end result is *almost* always the same.

What responding to an email or chatting IM doesn't say:
It doesn't say I love you stranger, let's meet.

A pretty face, a public photo, or a statement of location on a family site of strangers doesn't say I love you, let's meet. Though it might say, here is my face-be it what it is- here is my plot in the world.

I *could be* totally off.
Maybe after talking to you for awhile she became aware that you wern't her type-as you are strangers and talking is one indicator as to a persons disposition.

And why do you judge a person on whether or not they want to date anyway?
Is it because you want to date.

Sounds like a personal problem.
You may have taken a stranger.
You may have phantasized a wanted outcome to your benifit
You may have put her on a pedastal,
And you may have used the reality of the situation, and the dashing of your maybe fantasy, to slam her and all women for putting an end to the IT you finally revealed.

Dude, if a guy is talking to you- its obviously what he wants.

Being honest here. He was being honest from the get go - Im a guy, your a girl, eventually Im going to want to meet up. We're animals, we breed, its what we do. Please, he doesn't want conversation, don't kid yourself.

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You do know that both murder AND necrophilia is illegal?

Hahahaha










Only if you get caught