What does having a girlfriend feel like?

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I've never had a girlfriend of been asked to be anybody's boyfriend.

What does having a girlfriend feel like? Is it overrated?

When I've had one it felt amazing (albeit stressful). But the relationships I was in never lasted longer the infatuation period.

It's been my experience that after a while the relationship gets kind of boring. And if the person you are dating has problems in their family/childhood you get to see them replicated in your relationship. I know I'm cynical, but perhaps I'm just sounding off on the typical messed up American family that hasn't had therapy?

Sad to say it but I've never had a woman that I could call a girlfriend. I've had a ton of woman friends, still do.

The nearest I ever got to experiencing having a girlfriend was about 7 years ago, she did live a couple of hours from me and we only saw oneanother at weekends but it felt amazing. Even normal stuff like walking along the road, food shopping, waiting for a bus etc felt amazing with her at my side. I loved the physical contact, hand holding, head on shoulder, etc, and sharing a bed was great, it felt so nice to fall asleep with someone you loved and who loved you next to you.

But it didn't last long, a few months. She went to America with some fella she'd met. Turned out she'd been seeing another man too. I felt cheated and bad, not just becausee she left me but because what we had wasn't the real deal.

Whilst it lasted it felt great and ever since I've been pining to experience it again. I know a few women who are in relationships and I'm ashamed to say it pains me to listen to them talking about what they and their partners do and how great they are.

Well having a girlfreind feels like... *how should i put it* It feels like Every moment in your life is the most important, Like you have a reasion to live the next day, and you have someone to hold and tell you everything will be ok...

twoshots conjectures that the wet-ware for "having a girlfriend" gradually dies if it is not used, so as you get older the particular quale of "having a girlfriend" becomes as incomprehensible as "what is it like to be a bat?" or "what does red look like" to a blind person. Welcome to the party of being part of a new chapter in the philosophy of quales comrade. Don't worry; red is overrated, and can be understood as "the sound a trombone makes" anyway.

Ok its happened to me before on more than one occasion (sometimes being an attractive aspie can be a curse!), she thinks she likes you for a while, gets your hopes up, then realises how uncool you really are and s**ts on your face. That is how it is, really.
Oh yea, and if shes so called "nice" to you, she will lead you on and make it even more painful for you in the end.

I can attest to this. I've had girls who are attracted to me, but after we date a bit they say they can't "connect" with me... very frustrating.

Lol? Are you bi?

In a word, no. But quality of the relationship matters a lot.

I only had one that lasted for more than 2 months, it actualy lasted about 2 and a halve years.

The first six months were pretty good, but after a while her egoistical/borderline tendencies surfaced and she screwed so much with my head, I still have to cope with the emotional abuse years after the fact.

So yeah, relationships aren't the utopia most people without experiencing them think..

But it is fix emptiness though.

then don't start dating right away. get to know the girl first, "connect" first and then move on to a romantic level if you feel like it.
that's how it was with me and my boyfriend
we've been friends for almost 2 years now and i've been in love with him for about 6 months but didin't do anything about it since today.
and guess what!
he's my boyfriend now!
so happy!

btw i think he's propably an aspie, too

it's not overrated but it is very possible to be happy and content by yourself. you have to be if you want a working relationship(not saying this from experience but from reading psychology books )

I MUST AGREE!! ! I just celebrated my first year anniversary with my girlfriend and I cant imagine life without her.

I can attest to that as well.

I was an attractive aspie before I came back to my senses and realized that being attractive was causing me more harm than good.

Itchy

I went through different phases when I had one - and it's true there tends to be a strong infatuation at the beginning, then that fades a little and people get a bit used to it. It's still better than loneliness; especially since I'm the type that, in practice, can't seem to have sex without love.

It was very hard for me the week she came clean about wanting to end the relationship. Since for over a year, she basically encompassed all my social life - she was the friend to have a laugh with, someone to turn to when desperate or depressed, even sometimes someone to play games with. . .

I haven't completely come to terms with her and whether did she truly stopped loving me or what really happened. I also feel hardcoded to love only her and think only of her whenever I try to picture myself in a relationship - I can't truly develop interest in anyone else (not that I meet a lot of people either). Part of me has stupid vague hopes of being with her again. The good part is that I don't feel as empty as before the relationship.