How do you know when you fall in love?

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I go out with an AS and im a NT, but i was just wondering if you guys had any knowledge of how you would know when your in love with someone? I like to hear what your views are!

Debbie

You'll know when you feel a deep connection to that person. The signs won't be visible.

I dont know

are we making jokes about it?

Yes, they're kidding. I'm sure you'll get some serious answers in the mix, don't worry. I might make one myself in a bit.

When some of his flaws become endearing to you but others make you hate him, like really f*&^ing hate him, but you can't stop thinking about him

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You can't really tell in my opinion but it maybe when the mood is right or something.

Personally, I don't really think there's a straight answer to that question. Just that when you are, you'll know it.

Love is a much abused word, used to describe so many situations and sets of expectations, we are left puzzling over what it is or how to identify it. Does it involve affection? Unconditional loyalty? A feeling of respect? A decision? Must it be exciting? Must it be difficult? Does it die?

There will never be a universally recognized definition. Not everybody will agree with what you think. People will say "love" of situations and feelings that would horrify you. Dive for the meaning behind the word, for there is nothing magical in the word itself. Be clear about what you mean, with your beloved. Ask for the same in return.

It's a waste of time to sit around wondering "Do I love him?" Figure out what you really want to know. Are you wondering whether this is the deepest affection you'll ever know? Are you wondering if this relationship is viable? Are you wondering whether your feelings are really strong enough to carry this bond through times of trouble?

There are many people who are capable of exciting, attracting, and intriguing you. You might form deep bonds with many people or even feel instantaneous and everliving affection for a few. By one definition, you love all of them. By another, you love only the one with whom you choose to align yourself.

The only words that come into mind is only if he loves and respects you for you and dido on your part. Cliche, but I think that's how you kind of know. Real love as opposed to euphoric love takes time, if you know what I mean. Ok I feel weird about saying that. Good Luck.

The easiest/economic way to tell if one is "in love" is to ask yourself if you reverse value the person. I've personally never reversed valued anyone, but if you do, then you love I suppose.

i dont know
I thought I was, but everytime I thought I was it turned out to be a hoax

How do you know if your in love with someone...I assume based on your question and that your in the same situation as me, involved with someone who has Asperger's but you don't , you want to hear from someone with a similiar diagnosis how they know or express that. And I also assume that you ask it because your love with that person is not expressed in the ways we are culturally brought up to recognize or affirm. (By the way I fully accept that I am wrong about my assumptions.) For me, and my thoughts are based more on experience and less on my relationship with my Aspie mate, is that love is expressed in the daily/weekly commitment of time invested in that person. If you and the person you are involved with attempt to regularly connect, make space for each other in each other's life, at some point begin to share common future dreams, attempt to understand each other than I believe this ideas to be the expression of love in any relationship. Most especially a romantic love.