What do men look for in a woman besides her looks?

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A good sense of humour is a must, since mine is somewhat warped.

Intelligence is also a compulsory requirement. Playboy bunnies may look hot, but if I can't hold a conversation with them, then what's the point?

Yes, it's easy to overanalyse this whole thing. My 2 cents on advice to girls, based on what I've observed:

1. Really think about what type of relationship you're looking for (esp. where on the spectrum from complete one-night stand to committed, serious monogamous long term relationship it lies) and then act accordingly.
2. We don't read minds, so the less directly you communicate things the more likely you'll be misinterpreted/message just not received. Also, it will put him off telling you things if you don't tell him things - communication can't just work one-way (I know this from personal experience). Plus, men generally like frankness. It's best if you either discuss an issue candidly and directly, or let it go.
3. All men need their space (I suspect this point isn't much of an issue with AS women but anyway), it's healthy if you don't do absolutely everything together. It is good for a relationship if he sometimes goes out with his buddies/relatives without you and you do the same (nothing wrong with mutual friends or with getting along well with his family, but it's not the end of the world if it doesn't happen).

Yes, you are totally right.....she is the best celeb example of femininity

we need to mark this day big and red in the calendar, lpp. the two of us agreeing on a subject...

^^ huh? you are used to disagree with me? I have no idea what you are talking about.

I don't think I was being too idealist when I answered. I was being vague if anything. I know from my experience of growing to like someone is it is the way there are that I'm attracted to. Now, I haven't always being entirely right in the end, far from it but the fact still remains it is 'the way they are', whatever that entails.

No, I can’t just see someone and fancy them. I panic when a girl hits on me and I don't know them. I also would likely assume something is not right as I've had prank secret admirer messages, etc.

You seriously panic when women hit on you?
What do you do, ask them out or do you have to know them better?

Well it hasn't really happened too often, but certainly I'd me more equipped to deal with it nowadays. It would depend how I was feeling on the day. If I was feeling pretty good them I would be more OK with it.

It is not really that remarkable. It is no different to people who panic when people sing them 'Happy Birthday', etc.

Anyway to answer you question, first is making sure that you are genuinely being hit on, then ideally I would try to get to know them briefly if they are complete stangers, then suggest something mutual that we could meet up a do. But really I would be pretty tongue tied.

Anyway the few times I've be hit on I didn't realize it at the time or I didn't fancy them. Manly I knew them or had met with them that day, but didn't know them that well. I haven't been hit on with a complete stranger other than by a spearmint rhino worker trying to get more business and 'my friend fancies you', sort of thing. In other words wind ups. Basically as I don’t know if I fancy someone without knowing them then I don’t think people will fancy me on sight either. I think it is a windup mostly. In a way I’m jittery if it is not. I’m not ashamed to admit I’m love shy.

I look for some sign of uniqueness!

I go to a university with about 19,000 - 55% women. Guess what? They ALL LOOK THE SAME (95%). Whatever time of year it is, there are literally 5 different outfits, with varying colors, but all the same. Jeans (2 different styles), with flip-flips, shirt underneath one color, shirt over with a different color. The shirt under is a little longer than the shirt over. Without the color variations, you have about 9000 robots marching around in circles.

Nothing unique, nothing that shows the girl might actually be interesting or have something to say. I look for any sign that the girl is not one of said robots.

yeah. i usually bite my tongue but find that you tend to veer off towards the reductionist way a bit too much.
but then, i just noticed that by usually holding back, you cant know that i often disagree with your points. (duh, now that was an aspie-moment if there ever was one)

so, lets just be happy we agree on natalie portman and all is fine

For me it would depend on how they were hitting on me.
If a woman was hitting on me in a way that I found to be threatening and/or sexually harrassing in nature, then I would definitely panic and try to do whatever I could to get out of the situation.

I'm pretty sure looks are the last thing I look for in a woman.
The last thing.

I'm pretty sure looks are the last thing I look for in a woman.
The last thing.

Smart women drive me crazy. Probably because anyone else is just boring/doesn't understand what I'm on about half the time.

Something else I find really attractive is dyed hair. Light blue, red, pink or orange. I think it's the unconventional in a person that I find attractive, as I can't stand mainstream anything.

Acceptance and mathematical ability. Women that are extremely talented in math (much more than I am) drive me nuts quite easily once I get the fullest extent of their abilities. Because I will have to live with math the rest of my life (college, university and professional), I also want the woman of my life to share it with me.

* Strong will
* "Feminine" appearance (which to me doesn't necessarily have to do with being good-looking)
* Interests in common