Anybody Asexual

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Asexual: A person who does not experience sexual attraction.

An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are. Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community, each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently.

That's the definition off a online community that I'm with called Asexuality Visibility Education Network (AVEN). On www.asexuality.org I'm Shadow girl on there as well.
I'm curious to know if there are any here or help those who have never heard of it learn about it or help them discover themselves if they are.

I've been a member on the messageboard at AVEN, but I can feel purely sexual attraction to women from their faces and bodies, but nothing more. I'm very mindblind so I don't understand facial expressions and body language.

Hi Shadowgirl, it's Aeriel from AVEN and as you already know - yes, I'm asexual!

I just joined up here too, since I feel that my Aspergers and asexuality are inextricably intertwined. Glad to see a familiar avatar here!

I am not asexual, but I am curious, how does being asexual affect desire to have children? Do asexual people still want to have their own children, and if so, what do they do about it?

Is there a significant gender difference? i.e. is it mostly males that are asexual? Mostly females? Or no real difference?

Thanks for your interest, emp. Asexuality is a spectrum too, there are lots of individual differences as you would expect.

In answer to your questions: Some asexuals want children, some have children, some don't want anything to do with children or childbirth (I'm of the latter variety). I imagine if it was important to an asexual to father or give birth to his/her own children, s/he'd have to go about doing that in the usual way, albeit with a degree of reluctance.

Statistically, it seems there are more females who are asexual, or are willing to admit to being asexual; but there are many men as well.

Yeah I've seen you around.
There are a few others from AVEN here as well. I'm kinda the same way here as well.

I am probably Asexual yeah out of all the sexual orientations it makes the most sense to me. I am not all that interested in getting a partner or anything but do enjoy friends.

I used to be. Turns out I was just a late bloomer.

I'd have to agree to being asexual. I can appreciate beauty in women, but I never really find myself feeling driven to have a girlfriend/wife, have sex with people, or anything sexual really. However, I have a question: Do many asexuals openly tell people, or do they mainly keep it to themselves and forums such as AVEN?

My sexuality is extremely selective. I only feel aroused when I want, and that's usually lying in bed thinking specifically about it.

I am temporarily asexual until I can fully recover from my recent rejection.

my main turn-ons are (conveniently) things that i can observe and enjoy in pople without being intimate with them (like hiccups, lol). sometimes sex scenes on tv do it for me as well.

i haven't had sex since i lost my virginity at 17, and i didn't enjoy that at all. i've never called anyone my girlfriend or boyfriend either. so i don't suppose i'm asexual, but rather that i'm content to derive my gratification from unconventional, solitary means.

I wish I were asexual.

I've never felt attraction to any person or either gender, though I've thought about having a wife and kids in the distant future (not that that's ever going to happen!)

right now im asexual. all my life all my crushes have been an act. but, i have tested myself (dont ask how) and i am on the path to straighthood! basically i feel something different around my friends leah and deanna.

I did go through a faze that I thought I was asexual, but after a while I figured out that I just have a low sexual appetite. I like sex, but don't feel like doing it very often.