do you find autistic girls attractive?

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The one I was interested in for the past year wanted to be single as well.

Depends how high or low functioning. If she's any lower functioning than the average aspie, then usually I don't find her attractive, and even if she is relatively high functioning certain little things can really turn me off. >.>

I knew a girl who was more medium-functioning autism in high school...while she wasn't stupid exactly (I'm sure she was very intelligent in some ways), I found her so naive and repulsive and irritating and giggly and immature and with an annoying as hell voice. (Think Spongebob's style of speaking, except her actual voice was different.) And to top it all off, she had a crush on me. So yeah...wasn't good. Classic example: in high school theatre class the kids were doing a skit in which a girl was being on trial for masturbating in class, and several of the other students were basically called up there pretending to be eye witnesses. The autistic girl was one of the "eye witnesses" and showed through her response that she clearly had no idea what masturbation was. And she was so gleeful in her ignorance. In another time we were playing charades, and when she went up she so completely misunderstood what she was supposed to be doing, but was still so gleeful and giggly about it. I find such...gleeful ignorance and immaturity to just be really icky.

With aspie girls it's hard to say. Oftentimes they have things that attract me to them--they're more likely to share interests with me than non-aspie girls, it seems, and I like the strangeness. But...and I hate to stereotype, but so many of them are so trapped in damage. While I can definitely be friends with someone who is as damaged and depressed as I, it's hard for me to be anything more in many cases because...someone who can't get themselves to change, to grow and mature, someone who doesn't have enough faith in their abilities to improve as a person if they try--that is someone I find hard to date, because whenever I ask her how her life is her response always makes me feel so miserable. How could I fall in love with someone like that? That would imply the most intense care I had, and that would make my well being dependent on her's--and she would always be damaged, always be sad. >.< Just having some issues or being depressed isn't what I mean, though...that's all fine...but someone who would never grow up without help...that's not appealing.

I didn't realise that 'autistic girls' were a genre unto themselves. A girl is a girl.

I have also never met a girl with aspergers but I am adopted and I know that if i meet a girl that is adopted I feel more interested in them because I have something in common with them that I dont have with most people so I think it would be the same for aspergers even though I only found out I had aspergers a few weeks ago

I've never met a girl on the spectrum, so I wouldn't know. I imagine it would depend on the girl.

Heh, awkwardness provides some level of attraction to me, just because of the fact that that's one of the things I relate to most. But that wouldn't be the only determinant (personality, interests, general ability to converse)

Yeah, well some. Noticed a few on here aswell.

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I like shy girls, slightly introvert, but who are always up for an intelligent chat on arts, politics, life in general, deep stuff usually. I don't like girls who like to party out frequently, I tend to find shyness and fragility somewhat attractive.

If those traits could be seen as frequent with Aspie girls, then I guess I'll reply "yes" to this question. Also, if both have AS it may make the relationship easier because you don't need to worry about your other half understanding/tolerating your Aspie traits.

Even though i have no experience with serious relationships, i had a girl in one of my classes who had Aspie like traits who had a thing for me (including not being physically attractive in my opinion, making too much off-beat jokes and just bugging me constantly when i was sleeping in class) but i simply didn't have anything for her (but i didn't show my true feelings or tell about my true feelings), i just essentially just played along and wanted to be nice to others because i have no intent in hurting other peoples feelings, because all I have is good intentions for me and the people around me. But honestly I preffer NT's over Aspie if you ask me, because im not really the way i used to be when i was younger, like in high school or middle school.

I used to be best friends (or so I thought) with a female aspie who completely went and f*cked me over. Hence Im never going near one ever again.