I'm going to ask her tomorrow. No excuses.

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I've been meaning to do this for a bit, but I'm putting my foot down, I've decided I'm doing it tomorrow. I'm gonna tell my friend that I've had a crush on for over a year know how I feel about her, and ask her on a date. This is really scary, but I know I can do it.

Everyone, wish me good luck!

Best of luck!


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Of course you can do it. Confidence is the key.

Just relax and go do it!

Break a leg, hopefully not hers.

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Awesome! Do report back and tell us how it goes!

Good work and good luck!

Hope I'm not too late. Good luck.

Keep us posted. We want details.

How did it go?

I never actually got to ask her...I got pumped to go and talk to her about it so I stopped by her room yesterday and she told me she was taking a nap, so I let her be. And since friday is the last day before everyone goes home for the holidays, there just isn't an opportunity to set up a date. I suppose I'll just have to wait until the new year...unfortunately...

The next day (today) she seemed pleased and suprised that I came by to visit her...since I don't usually do this.

I feel disappointed in myself though, I really thought I was gonna be able to do this before the break.

That's ok. Since she was pleased you stopped by, I think you got a chance.

I'm the kind of person that would have asked her, right now, for a date when we get back. Of course that has never actually worked for me ... so yeah .. umm ... *cough*

Anyways, just try to keep in touch with her and good luck!! !

Just go for it, if you don't succeed, you could be missing out on a great future. or forever thinking what might have been.

Hi.... One piece of advice my friend.... don't fall into the trap of telling her you like her, and then start blurting out how madly in love you are or anything. Would really frighten the poor girl... even if she was interested she would probably react badly.

I always try to joke my way into a date.. Do something like this in the middle of a conversation...

You.. so, you got any secret admirers?
Her... No, not at the moment....
You... I bet you have... Your too nice not to have any!
Her... Nah... no one.
You... Well, I always have a great time with you. Being with you is always good fun.
Her... Yeah, I like you too.
You... well... I can at least flatter you a little... I am a bit of a secret admirer of yours...
Her...


The last bit obviously is unknown, but you can take it as an example of how to work your way into telling them how you feel without sounding desperate or like a complete idiot. This is a good way of doing it because her repsonses will be limited so you are in control of the situation. If her response is negative then you can always joke about her still not having any secret admirers cost the last one just owned up... and then say something like "I doubt I would do anything because I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship...." If her repsonse is positive you can then say, "fancy going to the cinema, just you and me?"

GO ON GO ON GO ON GO ON

I definately agree with the above - yes, ask her out, but dont go overboard.

I've chased away a lot of girls by coming on far too strong. A girl has to have doubts to keep her interest level up. Just ask her out as if you mean it only as friends, sure go ahead and make it a romantic settting. This will get her wondering if its a date, but she wont actually know its a date.

From there, just work on stimulating conversation, make sure to touch her a lot (but not in an akward way). And at teh end, try to snag a kiss. Now she'll know how you feel, w/o having to actually say it. It will make things a lot easier for both sides, believe me.

So how many excuses have you made so far?

If you haven't talked with her by now, move along. Nothing to see here. Really. I can't begin to tell you how much of my youth I wasted "getting up the courage" before I discovered that you really CAN "just do it". The worst she will say is that she's not interested. So what. At least you got some experience with this kind of thing so you'll do better next time. DO NOT waste too much time agonizing over this or you will use it all up.