Woman Want a Man Who they Can Show to Their Friend
Well, having a good attractive mate is like having a social trophy and people feel proud to show others what they got,it's human nature. It just happens that women are more social than men (in general) so we see this trophy phenomena among them more often but this behavior exists among the 2 genders.
But also you don't want to embarrass her infront of her friends either, you should make an effort to try and get on with them and respect them.
When I said thats what a woman thinks. It doesn't mean that is what they will do. Except for one, everyone in the office has a steady relationship. I don't, I have aspergers.
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But also you don't want to embarrass her infront of her friends either, you should make an effort to try and get on with them and respect them.
When I said thats what a woman thinks. It doesn't mean that is what they will do. Except for one, everyone in the office has a steady relationship. I don't, I have aspergers.
Well impressing and getting on with her friends and family is another thing you can do to make yourself more attractive then.
But also you don't want to embarrass her infront of her friends either, you should make an effort to try and get on with them and respect them.
But also you don't want to embarrass her infront of her friends either, you should make an effort to try and get on with them and respect them.
To a varying degree an they want an accessory. Similarly, most people don’t drive around in old bangers because they don’t like to be seen driving one. law status man usually don’t make a good accessory.
I have to say, I disagree with what Aspie_Chav is saying.
I've never been one for materialism. I'm proud of my other half because of his personality, how he acts with me and everything he is (he is a diagnosed Aspie), not because he has a fancy job/car/house/whatever. I want to show him off because I love him and he loves me. That's all.
I don't care what other people (friends, family, outsiders) think - he treats me well and that's all that matters.
I think when someone feels easily embarassed by their partner (who they ALREADY know and like)....it speaks about their own insecurity and about their lacking a sense of humor and of ease. If THEY are confident and cool they could laugh it off and don't act that bothered by any small embarassment. But what embarassment are we talking about? And of course, if the relationship is new and she doesn't know what the guy has to offer really well...it's different:)
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I think when someone feels easily embarassed by their partner (who they ALREADY know and like)....it speaks about their own insecurity and about their lacking a sense of humor and of ease. If THEY are confident and cool they could laugh it off and don't act that bothered by any small embarassment. But what embarassment are we talking about? And of course, if the relationship is new and she doesn't know what the guy has to offer really well...it's different:)
So you are affraid of what people think of a guy.
If you don't know a guy very well you can't except him for who he is. But once you get to know him it doesn't matter what other people think.
I'm not sure what you are trying to say...
I've always found woman as fickle as anything, but once they get to know you they seem to like you.
Not true. I've actually had a relationship end because I wasn't liked by his friends even though he liked me himself??
Then weeks later he had his new replacement found by his friends. The friend apporved girl wasn't really his type!
This same person thought I was an embarassment when out in social settings. I would tell him over and over I can't hear what he was saying in loud enviroments. It was all too much. He would just roll his eyes and get pissy over it.
I'm kinda glad that he cared a little too much about what others thought
Mating can be reduced to a mathematical formula, almost. Each partner brings something to the table, and ultimately the total summation of what they bring should be relatively equal for a relationship to work. If it's not equal, one partner will feel like they got a raw deal and will eventually leave.
Where it gets tricky is that different people value different traits more than others. Also people tend to hide the negatives and over-exaggerate the positives early on. For instance I have a friend who almost exclusively cares about looks. I have another who wants personality and brains, and looks is a VERY distant concern. The same would be true of women as well... Some might want a social Alpha Male type to show off to friends, as indicated here... others may actually want a reclusive, shy guy. A lot of Goth girls want skinny white guys who are submissive. Go figure, but to each their own. To others money is more important.... but just remember that the total summation is what must balance out. And for that to happen both sides must be honest about what they want most. In other words if a woman is there for the money, she should be honest about it. The right (rich) guy for her won't care about that. Same goes for us guys. We need to be honest... are we there for the looks? The brains? A combination of many traits?
My girlfriend wants me to get along with her friends, and shows off some of my good traits (I DJ, I'm witty in a quirky sort of way, and I'm very intelligent). But she knows I'm no socialite, and doesn't expect me to be one. And when the gathering gets tiring for me (social interaction often is) she's ready to go without any hint of being embarrassed about it. And if I'm shy or quiet, she doesn't fault me for that either. To her, my other traits are more important. And as long as I can manage to get along with her friends, there's no trouble.
The short version of all that nonsense I just wrote: Different women value different traits. For us with AS... It's best NOT to pick a girl who values social status a lot. Find one that prefers other traits. There are plenty of them out there.
I think if a women felt that way she wouldn't be worth being with anyway. I like someone that has Aspergers and I am ALWAYS glad to be with them (seen or unseen.) I find him very attractive so why should I care what anyone else thinks? He's beautiful inside and out.
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