What the HELL is wrong with girls?

Post Reply New Topic

A lot of men with otherwise appealing qualities won't consider asking a woman out if she doesn't have the trappings of superficiality; they, and appearance, are considered paramount.

You need to find yourself a different subculture of girls.

The things I look for in a man are: Competence, and kindness. High levels of literacy, passion and awareness of the world at large, and mad culinary skills also helpful. Gracefulness is sexy. . . almost, but not quite, as sexy as competence.

I think there are probably more women out there with these sorts of priorities than you give credit for.

Precious few people have found anything like happiness at the age of 19, regardless of appearances.


I'm guessing that acting "gangsta" is what passes for competence (if nothing else, social competence, but also for power to accomplish things in the world at large) in the circles you refer to. That sucks, and it's a little rediculous. . . but mostly, the moral of the story is, find yourself a nice band geek. She's probably much better conversation anyway.

I'm a chick, and my sister is one of thos idiots who likes bad boys. Now... knowing my sister as I do, hell I grew up with her... I can tell you this.

She wants the bad boy because she's not getting that at home. It's true! Pretty much all girls who are into bad boys are looking for something different, because they think whatever is more different than them will be what they fall in love with.

Try looking for the nerdy little chick. Someone who wears glasses, has that straight mouse brown hair, the works. Yea, she may not be your dream girl when you look at her, but who knows what she's like on the inside?

And I think the reason you are having trouble finding a girl is because you are looking. All you can see is the ones who stand up and asked to be noticed. It's litterally impossible that EVERY girl at your school is into bad boys. Stop looking so hard, and you will notice the quiet girl in maths who gets every answer right.

You'll find a girl one day. They don't just grow on trees, I'm sorry to say. But it's proven that if you quit trying so hard and stop putting pressure on yourself, then you will find someone who really cares about you for you.

And don't worry so much about it. I'm a female, therefore by definition I haz boobies. And with those I could get a guy if I really wanted to all thru highschool. But instead, my first BF was when I was 20. So you're not alone.

I can garauntee you that not all girls your age are looking for thugs. I certainly wasn't.

I can't speak for all women because each girl is an individual, but I can tell you that confidence was what always attracted me... not the desperate attempt at confidence that these gangsta types make, but real, honest self-assuredness. I suppose you could say that I liked a challenge. I enjoyed the company of people who acted as if they didn't feel the need for a girlfriend and would be just as happy remaining on their own, because I knew that people like that wouldn't be clingy or want to spend every waking moment with me. And if they decided to be a boyfriend in spite of feeling no desperate need to be with anyone, it was that much more of a compliment.

I know it's counterintuitive, but my advice would be to stop trying so hard.

*Sigh*



Oh no, another rant about why girls like *Jerks* instead of nice guys. If you're still in HS, than I say just FORGET ABOUT IT and wait till you get to college. Also, you might wanna consider online dating cuz that makes it MUCH easier to find girls who are more like you and even those who would be interested in someone like you. Im tempted to sream: Nice Guys STILL FInish Last!
But its been said WAAAAY too many times. YOu're NOT gonna change girls in terms of what they want, nor the rules of the game. You just have to market yourself to the right buyer.

I have thought of this a lot. But it's actually really, really easy!!

2 minutes course - why women don't like "nice guys"

www "dot" somethingpositive "dot" net /sp02142004 "dot"shtml



[what the f**k, can't make it clicky too new on the forum, well.. replace "dot" with . ]