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03 Jan 2005, 7:05 pm

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Simply stated, leave her alone if you don't want to risk getting fired from your job, in trouble with the law and be considered a stalker and that isn't something most women like.


Why is it women get so freaked out all the time? You always hear girls say "This guy freaks me out" or "this guy is too pushy" or "this guy is obsessed with me" Why is it womens minds work so much different then men? If your a single man and a good looking girl called you, and was all over you us guys would be happy as hell. Why is it so much harder for guys? :x Why cant it when it comes to dating why cant womens minds be like a guys? They are so much more complex. You either dont try enough, or they freak out.


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03 Jan 2005, 8:18 pm

Because there are a lot of men unfortunately out there now that would use women for sex and hurt them because they don't want relationships, they just want to use them. Some will stalk women, harrass them and anything else they can to get a woman. That's why so many women are nervous and scared of getting hurt by men that could be potentially dangerous which give the good guys that are worth a relationship a hard time in gaining one. It's not a hard concept to understand, there are too many men that want just sex and more women that want relationships than just sex. It doesn't work out equally and acting like you are towards that girl when she didn't want to be bothered you anymore doesn't help out period.



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03 Jan 2005, 9:02 pm

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Because there are a lot of men unfortunately out there now that would use women for sex and hurt them because they don't want relationships, they just want to use them. Some will stalk women, harrass them and anything else they can to get a woman. That's why so many women are nervous and scared of getting hurt by men that could be potentially dangerous which give the good guys that are worth a relationship a hard time in gaining one. It's not a hard concept to understand, there are too many men that want just sex and more women that want relationships than just sex. It doesn't work out equally and acting like you are towards that girl when she didn't want to be bothered you anymore doesn't help out period.


yes, but I really wanted to take her out. yes shes very good looking, but I like her personality too and shes polite.


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03 Jan 2005, 9:31 pm

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Because there are a lot of men unfortunately out there now that would use women for sex and hurt them because they don't want relationships, they just want to use them. Some will stalk women, harrass them and anything else they can to get a woman. That's why so many women are nervous and scared of getting hurt by men that could be potentially dangerous which give the good guys that are worth a relationship a hard time in gaining one. It's not a hard concept to understand, there are too many men that want just sex and more women that want relationships than just sex. It doesn't work out equally and acting like you are towards that girl when she didn't want to be bothered you anymore doesn't help out period.


yes, but I really wanted to take her out. yes shes very good looking, but I like her personality too and shes polite.


LGB, I think you need to stop and realize that she has made it very clear she's not interested in you and that you have no chance of taking her out. Accept that and move on or you risk losing your job and more if you continue to persue this. What you are doing if you keep doing this is stalking her. That is illegal.



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03 Jan 2005, 9:43 pm

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Because there are a lot of men unfortunately out there now that would use women for sex and hurt them because they don't want relationships, they just want to use them. Some will stalk women, harrass them and anything else they can to get a woman. That's why so many women are nervous and scared of getting hurt by men that could be potentially dangerous which give the good guys that are worth a relationship a hard time in gaining one. It's not a hard concept to understand, there are too many men that want just sex and more women that want relationships than just sex. It doesn't work out equally and acting like you are towards that girl when she didn't want to be bothered you anymore doesn't help out period.


yes, but I really wanted to take her out. yes shes very good looking, but I like her personality too and shes polite.


LGB, I think you need to stop and realize that she has made it very clear she's not interested in you and that you have no chance of taking her out. Accept that and move on or you risk losing your job and more if you continue to persue this. What you are doing if you keep doing this is stalking her. That is illegal.


Thats why I didnt talk to her the rest of the day, and when I see her at work I will not even aknowledge her. If she told her dad about me if I did keep bugging her do you think he would be ticked?


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03 Jan 2005, 9:51 pm

Yes. I think any father would be angered by a guy harrassing their daughter, it is parental instinct to protect their child from those that don't have their best interests in mind and likely could land you in trouble with the law as well if you don't heed advice given to you that might save you from getting in trouble with the law over this. But of course, if you choose to not take any advice already given here to you that you've asked for than be prepared for any consequences that could happen.



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03 Jan 2005, 10:06 pm

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Yes. I think any father would be angered by a guy harrassing their daughter, it is parental instinct to protect their child from those that don't have their best interests in mind and likely could land you in trouble with the law as well if you don't heed advice given to you that might save you from getting in trouble with the law over this. But of course, if you choose to not take any advice already given here to you that you've asked for than be prepared for any consequences that could happen.


Also could he show up at my work and wait for me and give me a ass beating? 8O 8O This is my beef. I try to find a gf, and I tried being nice to her yet I still cant get a gf. Should I give up?


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03 Jan 2005, 10:13 pm

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Yes. I think any father would be angered by a guy harrassing their daughter, it is parental instinct to protect their child from those that don't have their best interests in mind and likely could land you in trouble with the law as well if you don't heed advice given to you that might save you from getting in trouble with the law over this. But of course, if you choose to not take any advice already given here to you that you've asked for than be prepared for any consequences that could happen.


Also could he show up at my work and wait for me and give me a ass beating? 8O 8O This is my beef. I try to find a gf, and I tried being nice to her yet I still cant get a gf. Should I give up?


As I don't know her father and can't read minds, I can't tell you what he would or would not do. I think the point is, try and get to know some girls as friends, leave that girl at work alone and go on with life before you cause problems for yourself.



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03 Jan 2005, 10:14 pm

Your obsession with girls is getting ridiculous.



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03 Jan 2005, 10:18 pm

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Yes. I think any father would be angered by a guy harrassing their daughter, it is parental instinct to protect their child from those that don't have their best interests in mind and likely could land you in trouble with the law as well if you don't heed advice given to you that might save you from getting in trouble with the law over this. But of course, if you choose to not take any advice already given here to you that you've asked for than be prepared for any consequences that could happen.


Also could he show up at my work and wait for me and give me a ass beating? 8O 8O This is my beef. I try to find a gf, and I tried being nice to her yet I still cant get a gf. Should I give up?


As I don't know her father and can't read minds, I can't tell you what he would or would not do. I think the point is, try and get to know some girls as friends, leave that girl at work alone and go on with life before you cause problems for yourself.


Should I look outside the workplace?


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03 Jan 2005, 10:20 pm

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Your obsession with girls is getting ridiculous.


I think that unfortunately is an understatement by now after 298 posts mainly directed to girls/women.

LGB, just take some timeout from girls/women for a bit as far as a sexual/romantic relationship and focus on getting to know what you have to offer women, what women really want and how to be a friend with a woman without it having to be sexual-based.



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03 Jan 2005, 10:38 pm

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Your obsession with girls is getting ridiculous.


I think that unfortunately is an understatement by now after 298 posts mainly directed to girls/women.

LGB, just take some timeout from girls/women for a bit as far as a sexual/romantic relationship and focus on getting to know what you have to offer women, what women really want and how to be a friend with a woman without it having to be sexual-based.


Maybe your right.


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03 Jan 2005, 11:03 pm

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Thats why I didnt talk to her the rest of the day, and when I see her at work I will not even aknowledge her.


Sulking and showing her you're hurt and trying to make her feel guilty isn't going to make her like you any more. In fact, as a women that's had to turn alot of males down myself.. that actually makes me like them less.

I'm speaking for myself here, but alot of women like a man who is strong in himeself, can accept things and move on, without acting silly about it.



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03 Jan 2005, 11:26 pm

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Thats why I didnt talk to her the rest of the day, and when I see her at work I will not even aknowledge her.


Sulking and showing her you're hurt and trying to make her feel guilty isn't going to make her like you any more. In fact, as a women that's had to turn alot of males down myself.. that actually makes me like them less.

I'm speaking for myself here, but alot of women like a man who is strong in himeself, can accept things and move on, without acting silly about it.


Whats the point of looking strong though if shes not going to go out with me anyways/


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03 Jan 2005, 11:33 pm

Also most of the dating tips sites said a guy should long strong. Like here is one.

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4) Be aggressive
Women love guys who aren't scared to go after what they want. When you show no fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don't be scared to compliment a girl...tell her what you think. If she's looking extra nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day...she'll immediately realize that you want her.


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03 Jan 2005, 11:42 pm

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Also most of the dating tips sites said a guy should long strong. Like here is one.

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4) Be aggressive
Women love guys who aren't scared to go after what they want. When you show no fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don't be scared to compliment a girl...tell her what you think. If she's looking extra nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day...she'll immediately realize that you want her.



Also that seems to be written by a man, sorry but a man can't understand what a woman truly wants as he isn't a female. Sorry but accepting advice on women from a man is purely subjective to him and his experience, not by actual experience of being a woman and actually knowing what she wants. So until a man can somehow fully experience being a woman and knowing what women truly want, most any advice given will be subjective and sometimes misleading as not all women conform to what men's ideals are or image of them is.