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This is a question for both girls and guys... would like both sides to make it more thorough...

As I said in another thread.... I have about 6 infatuations going on at the moment. Well, not exactly infatuations but they make me go a bit wobbly in the knees. One of them is a definite infatuation. They are all people I know so no problems there. I am quite open about things to nearly all of them but I am really confused as to which I should show my feelings to. Two of them I don't know well, One is absolutely gorgeous (in my eyes) but extremely shy and introverted and I love them for it. They are exactly my type, but they seem to think they aren't good looking and freeze everytime a compliment is given. The only problem is we both are too shy to do anything. I keep thinking I am seeing signs but I just can't be sure. Anyway, I made a huge hint and got no reply. I did this before and thought I'd screwed it up, but nope, I got a slight hint from them months later. Should I call them or should I just forget about it and concentrate on my other options? The problem is, they all live too far away which is why I have not done anything about it yet and I am so confused to the point that I am considering giving up on it all and not doing the relationship thing for a while.

Advice needed..... and questions ready to be answered! I'd like to know from a girls point of view - why, if someone made it obvious that they really liked you, would you not reply to them? As I said, I thought I screwed it up before, but the potential has risen again and I want to know if I should just come out with it?

Of course I can't answer from a girl's point of view, but I don't think it's likely to be that different. One, what you think is an obvious hint might not be at all obvious to her; she isn't nearly as used as you are to how it contrasts with your normal behaviour; and she can only read your actions, not directly the meaning behind them.

Two, even if she does realise it's a hint, if she's interested in you and is trying to work out whether you're interested, she might well alternate between optimism and pessimism, and the pessimistic side of her mind will be trying to persuade her she didn't really see it, it was just wishful thinking. I should know; I went through two months of that before I made up my mind to come right out and ask.

Three, if she lives far away she may not be sure whether she can cope with a long-distance relationship and may be trying to forget you so as not to put herself through the pain of finding something she can't keep.

Just focus on other things

Hi Nuntar, perhaps you are right. Either way, I have decided to phone this weekend and find out for sure.

I don't think focusing on other things at the moment is a good idea - I need to get at least another day out organised to make sure we are still 'good'.

I am certain that this is a the best way forward for me.

Here's from a girl's point of view - why don't you just ask "would you like to go out with me?" She/they can only say no and then you'll know. I'm hopeless at picking up clues and I'm suspicious of motives if a man pays me a compliment, I'd much rather someone come right out and tell me.

Good luck!

Blowing cold again.... damn.... We chatted but it felt stiffled - terribly stiffled, as if they were thinking "what do you want, and why are you bothering me". Didn't mention my hints, and just told me to call back in two weeks and plan a get together. Pah. Not going to bother with this anymore. If they are interested they can come back to me, I am going to get on with the rest of my life. If they are not interested why can't they just say? Why are they being so damn annoying? Why even suggest a call in two weeks if they are too busy?

Do all six of these girls know about your infatuations for each of them? If they know you're hitting on people left right and centre then i can see why they aren't responding. From a girls point of view.

Oh no - they don't know each other. And I haven't hit on any of them, that's the problem. I have only really hit on the one, and I do it regularly.