I'm not meant for this
Yes, dating can suck sometimes. But what's the other viable option? Giving up and remaining alone for the rest of your life, without ever having experienced love or mutual attraction?
View it as something you deserve and just have yet to find, rather than something unobtainable to you. Why shouldn't there be a girl out there who likes you for you? You deserve it just as much as the next man does. But it's unlikely that she'll find a way to somehow wander into your house one day out of nowhere.
Fight for it and learn to take part in it, or fight against it and try to find some new and better way for people to interact and become attracted to each other. Don't just give up and throw in the towel.
Yes, dating can suck sometimes. But what's the other viable option? Giving up and remaining alone for the rest of your life, without ever having experienced love or mutual attraction?
View it as something you deserve and just have yet to find, rather than something unobtainable to you. Why shouldn't there be a girl out there who likes you for you? You deserve it just as much as the next man does. But it's unlikely that she'll find a way to somehow wander into your house one day out of nowhere.
Fight for it and learn to take part in it, or fight against it and try to find some new and better way for people to interact and become attracted to each other. Don't just give up and throw in the towel.
I'm not giving up, per se, I'm just indifferent. If it happens it happens, if not, oh well. I'm not going to go out of my way in fruitless attempts to try to make something happen, however. If a single woman I'm attracted to ever shows up at my group's open board game night (no single women have shown up), or some other activity I participate in, I'd probably try to get to know her. However, there is no reason to expect that to change and I don't see the point in hoping for something to happen that is purely random luck.
Yes, dating can suck sometimes. But what's the other viable option? Giving up and remaining alone for the rest of your life, without ever having experienced love or mutual attraction?
View it as something you deserve and just have yet to find, rather than something unobtainable to you. Why shouldn't there be a girl out there who likes you for you? You deserve it just as much as the next man does. But it's unlikely that she'll find a way to somehow wander into your house one day out of nowhere.
Fight for it and learn to take part in it, or fight against it and try to find some new and better way for people to interact and become attracted to each other. Don't just give up and throw in the towel.
I'm not giving up, per se, I'm just indifferent. If it happens it happens, if not, oh well. I'm not going to go out of my way in fruitless attempts to try to make something happen, however. If a single woman I'm attracted to ever shows up at my group's open board game night (no single women have shown up), or some other activity I participate in, I'd probably try to get to know her. However, there is no reason to expect that to change and I don't see the point in hoping for something to happen that is purely random luck.
I agree with Bataar, I am not really giving up, but at the same time I am not going out of my to make things happen . I understand your point Diamond_Head, and you will probably reply by saying something like 'nothing ventured, nothing gained'. I suppose that the reason why the few of us that regards ourselves 'as not meant for' types, is probably due to our inablity to make things happen in the first place.
Yes dating does suck I definately think the better option is to give up and remain alone for the rest of my life. In fact I think it best not to just give up but to actively persue being alone with great vigor!
Yes dating does suck I definately think the better option is to give up and remain alone for the rest of my life. In fact I think it best not to just give up but to actively persue being alone with great vigor!
Sometimes I feel this way, however as I previously said I haven't given up hope totally. I suppose I'll just have to be content with the capabilties I have in trying to find someone . If those capabilties lead to something, then great. If not, then so be it.
You have a group that has a 'board game night'???
AWESOME!! I want in!
I looove board games!
-edit- on second thought, I'm not too fond of group activities though...
dang paradox...
I'm glad to hear that you have found peace not dating I know there are people on this Earth who can be single for long periods of time or the rest of their lives, and still be content. Unfortunately, I'm not one of those types.
I'm going to use a biblical reference mentioned in Corinthians that sums it all up. Paul said in Corinthians 7:8-9 says this above love/marriage:
"I say to those who are unmarried, especially to widows: It is good for them to remain like me (single), however, if they cannot control themselves, they should get married, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion"
It is good to be single, if you can live that lifestyle and can be content by it, but if you burn with lust and passion, it is better for you to be in a relationship or marriage than to burn with lust, and because of those lustful feelings, do sinful things to negate those feelings.
Not at all. To each his own. I have no reason to convince you that any course of action is the right one to take, beyond saying that life is too short not to take a stand at some point and fight to achieve the things that you desire- including love and attraction.
There's no reason that love should "not be meant for" you, which is an unfortunate mindset that many people seem to have. As previously stated, you're just as deserving as the next man. Love isn't something just allocated to a lucky few who divine grace has somehow deemed worthy. It's something you have to burn for and search for until you find it.
In terms of being unable to make anything happen- The potential of each human being is impossible to calculate. Why sell yourself short, without first finding out what you're truly capable of?
If it matters little to you either way, then there's no reason to change anything. If you hope to find someone you like (as you said, a single woman you're attracted to), but you know that there is very little chance of that ever occurring through an open board game night, why not try another hobby where your chances are at least a little better?
It isn't just purely random luck, although I'm sure luck can play a role in it. You can still stack the odds more in your favor depending on the way you approach things, and how much you desire what you're searching for.