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17 Jan 2009, 3:16 pm

While I agree with the stereotype I've seen plenty of females in my school days even my sister break this notion that the guy does the asking out. I don't know how high it is with the "majority" of females but I have seen some degree of the opposite.

As for me, yeah I'm bad at initiating a conversation or asking a guy out unless it's on "friendly terms" but even that doesn't seem to give him a clue. -_-

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17 Jan 2009, 3:34 pm

Doomcookie wrote:

. I don't understand.. why it is that if I stood any chance of being in a relationship with a girl, I would have to be some emotionless rock. It's fine if she cries.. but I can't?

i actually think it take a man to cry and share his feelings. I think its a very brave and manly thing to do admit ur true feelings instead of being matcho all the time.

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Why do I have to be the one who listens to the other pour their heart out, and comfort them?

I listen to my guy friends pour out their feelings and wots happening wiv them so I can comfort them and agen I think its a manly thing to do.

so not all women are the same some of us like men who admit their emotions. after all u guys are human too.

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17 Jan 2009, 4:29 pm

All the girls I've been in a relationship with have asked me out, so it can work the other way too.

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17 Jan 2009, 5:10 pm

Doomcookie wrote:

Lead a relationship, why it is that the guy has to ask the girl.

Now, mind you, I'm not asking for help or something like that, and I'm only 15, but this is something that just bothers me. I don't understand.. why it is that if I stood any chance of being in a relationship with a girl, I would have to be some emotionless rock. It's fine if she cries.. but I can't? I weight 190, and struggle to lift 7 and half a pounds, for a female, it's fine if she can't lift her body-weight, but because I'm a male, I have to be the one who can do everything? Why do I have to be the one who listens to the other pour their heart out, and comfort them?

I don't know if anyone will understand what I'm trying to say, but hopefully I was able to make it clear what I was trying to say.

It's just something I wanted to get off my chest, and I don't have anywhere-else to ask it.

A healthy adult marriage type relationship hopefully won't fit into these roles. A man should be able to pour his heart out and cry as well as long as it's to someone he can trust.

However, let's not forget that you won't be the one that will have to push a baby out of your vagina.

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18 Jan 2009, 12:00 am

Because a woman already has a p****, and isn't looking for another one?

Yes, one can force a round peg into a square hole, but really how comfortable is that? When it comes to romantic relationships, when you act like a man, she is freed to be able to act like a woman, and everyone is a lot more comfortable.

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18 Jan 2009, 12:07 am

Simple supply and demand analogy... There's more demand for single females than the actual supply of women actively seeking men.

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18 Jan 2009, 7:14 am

ive heard that guys like it when the girl asks the guy...
many ppl still do think the guy should ask, apart from on a leap year....
wtf lol...
guysare suposed to be the stronger sex and do the approaching and looking after.. but theres no reason why a girl shouldnt do those things...

haha in the past ive used it as my excuse... (well im a girl ... il wait for them to ask me) but the sad fact is even if they like you they arent likely to ask because they fear rejection.. and they say rejection is worse for a boy than a girl..

its sad theres so much pressure on boys. i say u shud be brave and ask, if ur a girl! hahaha i supose that is rich coming from me! biut yeah anyways...

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18 Jan 2009, 7:42 am

Hazelwudi wrote:

So most men here are p*****s, according to you.

You know what? Girls like you don't deserve gender equality.

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18 Jan 2009, 8:59 am

i had lots of girls ask me out ? so i think it works both ways plus these fellings and stuff depends on the person some girls like honesty and they see it as men telling them about there true fellings

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18 Jan 2009, 9:37 am

found something that might be off intreast romantic rejection
interpersonal relationships

for rejection read the romatic rejection bit that has some revelance to one of the ohter posts

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19 Jan 2009, 1:41 am

I've always asked my past boyfriends out, I say no if they ask me, but I'll ask them myself later.
It freaks me out when a guy tries to ask me out, it's beyond awkward for me because it doesn't feel right at all.
I'm female, btw.

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19 Jan 2009, 1:42 am

neroulogicaly wrote:

found something that might be off intreast romantic rejection
interpersonal relationships

for rejection read the romatic rejection bit that has some revelance to one of the ohter posts

Leil Lowndes and her ilk are a lot better, if you hold your nose.

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20 Jan 2009, 6:14 pm

Well, if it's so, I wish they had started earlier in the last century doing things like this...

I have read of girls chasing guys recently, but that didn't start showing up until...oh, maybe the 80s...

just born too early, I guess..

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20 Jan 2009, 7:42 pm

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You know what? Girls like you don't deserve gender equality.

Have you ever been pregnant?

Talk about gender equality

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23 Jan 2009, 7:16 pm

because we have to lead don't know why i wouldn't find it strange if a girl asked me out and i wouldn't mind a girl paying for me and her when go to the movies once in awhile.

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23 Jan 2009, 7:24 pm

I think he was asking how it all originated.

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