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KenM
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26 Dec 2008, 4:06 pm

Benjamming wrote:
The point is to keep trying, no matter the odds and no matter whats happened in the past. Positive thoughts create positive change.



Thanks, but its hard to stay positive when all you get is shot down.



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26 Dec 2008, 6:46 pm

KenM wrote:
Benjamming wrote:
The point is to keep trying, no matter the odds and no matter whats happened in the past. Positive thoughts create positive change.



Thanks, but its hard to stay positive when all you get is shot down.


Didn't say it was easy, chief.
But look, our situations aren't all that different. I'm not content with my life. I'm lonely. But self pity gets you precisely nowhere, and I see way too much of it on these forums. Your life won't improve if you don't believe it will - its as simple as that.



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23 Jan 2009, 8:49 pm

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*removes glasses*
My god...


haha that was my initial response to reading the article as well.



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25 Jan 2009, 12:59 pm

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Well of course its you. Except when it isn't. Contrary to what hollywood tells you, women aren't a mythical race of sirens who delight in cruelty to men. The exceptions to this rule are about the same percentage as men who delight in treating women like dirt.
The point is to keep trying, no matter the odds and no matter whats happened in the past. Positive thoughts create positive change.

Finally a voice of reason! Couldn't agree with you more!

Women are just people and get equally hurt in this dating game (which I think is such a bad choice of words!).

Like your +ve style! :)



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25 Jan 2009, 4:10 pm

Me and a friend have been planning to do something similar next time we're birdin' it in the city. Give the other £50 quid and give £10 back for every girl approached.



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26 Jan 2009, 1:46 am

Jwa wrote:
Benjamming wrote:

Well of course its you. Except when it isn't. Contrary to what hollywood tells you, women aren't a mythical race of sirens who delight in cruelty to men. The exceptions to this rule are about the same percentage as men who delight in treating women like dirt.
The point is to keep trying, no matter the odds and no matter whats happened in the past. Positive thoughts create positive change.

Finally a voice of reason! Couldn't agree with you more!

Women are just people and get equally hurt in this dating game (which I think is such a bad choice of words!).

Like your +ve style! :)



Thanks. What does +ve mean?
I think its played like a game, but it shouldn't be.



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26 Jan 2009, 10:43 pm

I kinda have to raise an eyebrow at how many times you get rejected as the prize.

The idea is not to be rejected. It's pretty easy to set yourself up for rejection. If you go into a potential situation already working for rejection, chances are you're going to be rejected. Any person could set themselves up to fail.

The sad truth is you have to learn from your 'mistakes'. Don't approach every single woman, and for @#$ sure, don't be seen doing it either....;) Many women will see this as a sign of desparation.

I think Hollywood sells a bill of goods to women too. They're told that the guy gets swept off their feet by a guy. It can come as a bit off-puttiing to have a guy bouncing around a room like a free radical in a chemical solution...;)

Don't overanalyze, but look at what works for you, and what doesn't. Approach the women you would like to be around. Practice practice practice is the way to do it.



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27 Jan 2009, 1:00 am

pakled wrote:
The idea is not to be rejected.


Thank you very much, Pakled. After so many displays of empty optimism, I had come to think noone would realize the obvious.