anna-banana wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
to refresh your memory:
aspi-rant wrote:
nope... you should read my opinion about who i regard as attractive!
... certainly not the girl in the pic X postet.
0_equals_true wrote:
Personally I find you more attractive than Y
I edited the usernames.
aspi-rant just said that because he finds her picture "immodest' , that's why he said such crap.
As for equals_true, I don't know in what thread and in what context was that.
context doesn't make it any less rude.
How did I miss this???
First of all I am sorry if I caused any offence. In my defence context does make a differnce. I said:
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Personally I find you more attractive than *****, then again I have weird tastes. I quite like short hair on women, tendency toward darker (although more open-minded about that these days), and womanly features rather than girly or baby faced (which according to some research is not the norm). I go for interesting natural features and. What is often considered a perfect beauty I don't find attractive at all. Not because they are ugly but more there is less visually there. I guess it is the "uncanny valley" effect
It simply didn't occur to me that it would cause offence and lower self esteem, in hindsight maybe. However there are so many any things that can do just that, which would never be considered rude. Maybe they should be. This thread itself is a threat to someone's self esteem.
The person is question was getting plenty of compliments, so it was in this context that I made the remark and also in the context that some women had stated that they wouldn't post their pic because said person had.
That being said I won't make that mistake again. I will just mention the people I like the look of, although I was reluctant to do this to begin with, until that point where I thought: f**k it why not?. Forbid I actually raise someone’s self esteem.
Attraction is very personal in my opinion.
sure what you say all makes sense, yet even in the context it sounds sort of rude to compare... and I don't know if you've noticed but the person in question actually changed her avatar from her picture (that she'd had for ages) to a more neutral image, and although I'm not blaming anyone for that I think it's a shame...
just a proof that this thread can do more harm than good, as obviously it made a lot of people feel bad about themselves...