New GF? She's 18. I'm 31.

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I'm 27 (as stated below my name, I assume) and my boyfriend's 18. It's unusual for the guy [in a heterosexual relationship] to be younger. It's awkward trying to explain it away to people, but it really isn't their choice -- we feel how we do, and we do what we do, as we're free to do.

Obsessing over the age difference isn't necessary, even if she is 'barely legal,' as it were; she has a mind of her own, and her choices are her free will.

Go for it....but yeah, lay off the over-analyzing drugs They will only confuse you. When you start obsessing an issue, rather make a conscious choice to let it go. You cannot figure these things out, because you rarely have all the info available.

Rather work on getting your head to believe that she actually sees something in you. Your opening statement makes me think that it might be your biggest stumbling block, rather than the age difference. Love find itself in all sorts. I have been both amazed and shocked at some of the matchups that are working very well.

Congrats.

I've seen bigger age gaps. When my dad was in his late 40's, he dated women that were 18-20 years old and I was 17 at the time. I thought it was gross at the time but now I'm glad he enjoyed himself in his final years.

its leagle.

No problem with it as long as you're both happy. Though it is socially unorthodox because of the age gap. Expect some people to look on you as a bad person.

Thanks guys for the mostly encouraging remarks, and especially the Oingo Boingo vid. Danny Elfman can give some pretty good insight to the situation.

Yeah, the underage drinking thing isn't a huge deal. It is illegal, but she's in college. She'd drink just as much with or without me. I'm cutting back anyway, so it's another excuse to stay out of bars.

I'm gonna try not to think too hard about it and just be happy with whatever I can get. If it doesn't work, at least I will have already had some pretty darn good times with a really cute young girl. That's what I keep telling myself, anyway...

You are my hero.

She's a freak though.

There was a time when a lot of checkout girls seemed to be interested in me, at my local Sainsbury's, one of the big UK supermarket chains. For different reasons, with none of these girls did I get as far as relationships or anything. I figured that their 'interest' was most likely just being friendly simply because I was there transacting business and so making money for the supermarket. But how did you get out with a checkout girl? What made it possible or feasible for you to ask her out, while she was in the course of doing her job? I presume that's how it happened. Don't forget that no matter how underachieving and unassuming you think you are, you must have something good going for you to have been able to socialise with this girl the way you have - a normal, healthy college girl who surely must have a lot of positive interactions

I'm glad that you have found someone that appreciates you. Congrats!

I'm a fellow art-nerd. Most of the interest comes from my mom being an art teacher.

i know a guy who's in his thirties who's got a nineteen year old girlfriend who's in college, the only problem i have with them and their relationship is that he treats her badly.

well done on the relationship mate, if you're both happy i hope you have a long and prosperous relationship

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most people think i'm a bit strange, even abnormal. normal is the majority, the average, what is most frequent. if you lived around here, you'll see the positive of not being normal

Well, I didn't meet her at the store. I met her at a loft party that my friend's band played at. She actually was the one who did all the hitting on. I just like calling her a cute checkout girl/college freshman. I think a lot of men can relate to a that description.

My aunt and uncle are about the same age difference. Nothing wrong there.