Another year gone, still alone...

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do you know if she was just being nice or if she really meant it? if the latter you could always ask her if she could set you up with someone, introduce you or even as around on your behalf. i don't have any friends anymore which is why i feel so lonely, all it takes is onje person to make the right connections.

sorry for the double post, my connection isn't what it should be

Lol, I've gotten the same answer many times from friends. "qualities that a single girl wants" I'm pushing 23, and still alone. As for alcohol, I don't drink more than two drinks. I can hold my alcohol, however I don't like the drunk feeling. The cool thing is that I'm a "philosophical" drunk. Remember that drinking is a choice, not a social rule.
Dating-wise, I think that I have had the worst luck with women. Either they are already dating someone, or (this is the weird part) the ones that I like and like me alot end up moving away. If anyone needs examples, I'll give them.

i seem to have the same sort of problem, i'm not sure if it's a location thing or not but the girls i seem to get along with the most always live more than a thousand miles away.

It could be, because we have problems with interacting with people that we're not comfortable with. It's a pain. We want to be comfortable, but all of these triggers come up, and it gets difficult.
I think that the situation of the girls that move to different towns that Ive been friendly with, must be life's way of romantic irony in my life. I feel like my dating life is like "There's Something About Mary". I end up liking a girl, but somehow shes unavailable.

I have just been devorced for the 3. time now. Relasionship is very difficult when you are a stranger on this world. But now I know, never again a normal woman, next time, if there will be a next time, it must be a nice, intelligent aspie girl

You have a long life ahead of you and are going to go through many changes. You just have to be cool about where your life is now, and you will be surprised what the future holds. It's doesn't have to be all puppies, rainbows, unicorns and sunshine. Just try not to be so gloomy.

My personal romantic arc is filled with amazing highs and lows that will leave me emotionally scarred for life. In the last ten years since I turned 21, so much has happened. I've fallen madly in love and had my heart broken by three women. I've spent three years straight where I was didn't kiss anyone. I was in a relationship for a year with someone 10 years older than me before I realized I wasn't in love with her. The in between time was spent getting drunk in bars and letting sexually aggressive women take me home with them. Currently, I'm still getting over my exes and not trying too hard to meet someone, and BAM! I meet a really cute girl who really really likes me for reasons I cannot explain. Will it work? Probably not.

The idea that I'm getting from you is that you want something so specific that it will never be attainable. Don't expect anything and let things develop. Be prepared for disappointment. Be prepared to become someone you never thought you could be. Be prepared to be with someone who is different than you.

I know empathy is one of the hardest things for us to deal with, but you have to put yourself in the rest of the world's shoes once in a while. Think about how you act around women you meet and how you'd like them to perceive you. Figure out what you can offer and then give it. Maybe start by putting out a heartfelt ad on a dating site and see if someone can connect with that.

I don't know, I'm just sayin'....

Well the way she went on about it for over 5 minutes, I get the feeling it wasn't just for being nice...


She's a bit of a way away from me... well, not that far as the bird flies (under 100 miles), but I'm in NJ and shes on Long Island, which means going through NYC to get to where she and her bf (the latter is a friend from high school) are going to school, and I'm probably the only person in the greater NYC area that avoids the City like the plague...


I do have a bunch of friends, but they're all long distances away from me now... I'm the only person who tried to save money by going local... room and board is mad expensive these days...

Not being able to read body language or pick up subtle hints is also a real killer. I'm a whiz with sarcasm and can be sarcastic and pick up sarcasm with the best of them, however, when it comes to subtle communication, I just suck. I was standing in line somewhere and some girl who was nearby came over and said, "Wow, you're so tall. How tall are you?"

"I'm 6'6"", I replied. I figured I'd answered her question so there really wasn't anymore for me to say. She responded by asking, "What's it like being that tall?"

Being the honest person I am, I laughed and told her for the most part it's kind of a pain in the ass because I can't fit in most cars, and have a hell of a time buying clothes, shoes, etc. I made a joke about how I'd love to lose about 4 inches . . . . . . vertically. Again, I had answered her question and didn't have anything else relevant to say. She laughed at my joke and walked away a few seconds later. It was about an hour later, I was running the scenario through my head and it occurred to me that maybe she was interested in more than just how tall I am, but at the time, I didn't pick up on it at all. That kind of thing has happened several times.

That's why I need to meet someone in the context of one of my special interests because then I have contextual reason to keep talking to her and get to know her. Unfortunately, like I've mentioned earlier in this thread and in some other threads on this site, due to the nature of my special interests, I just do not see that happening.