People with non-high standards seeking only for highest

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...that's too

I think to a certain extent people of both genders expectations have been inflated by too much tv and other media.

but why so?

I don't care about looks.

But I probably have too high standards in the personality and intellect department.

Anyone that is just going after looks deserve the failed relationships and ruined lives that result.

I think people are just attracted to who they are attracted to and if they do go for someone who they can't obtain, it only hurts themseves. The only time it is annoying is when the person in question consistently goes after people like this and then complain constantly when they strike out, and there were perfectly decent looking women (or men if they are gals) all around them who might have gone out with them, but they only go for the hottest chick in the corner who has way more options than anyone else.

I think you bring up a thought provoking point and one that is worth thinking about when people bring up the argument 'wanting someone out of your league' so to speak. What constitutes this? Lower IQ folks chasing higher IQ folks - is that also being shallow in wanting what you are not yourself?

People can chase after whomever they want, just hopefully they are realistic about what they also bring to the table...if you can't offer something yourself, then rethink what you are doing regardless of what that you bring may be.

I have gottne the idea in my head that I need to do something about my physique, so I lost 38 lbs (another 20 to go at least). I realized I cannot look like an orb and then hope to be noticed.........except for being round. I am being noticed already, and do get to have some nice chats with strange girls.......if only I knew how to interpret them

I do not require a perfect physique to be attracted, but I will look at a girl's hands and feet, taking into account what she does on a daily basis. This will tell if she is taking care of herself. These two parts of the body are the most overlooked in general, especially the feet.

I don't where you got that from! But it is so good!

Question! What is the Null set?

i never notice that someone is attractive until i have seen them many times.
i do not understand much the attributes that make people physically attractive.

after a while of having nice talks with certain people, i notice they are attractive to me (girls).
but i already like them a lot before i know if they are attractive or not.

it is much more important to me to like someone who is near my path through life than to like some one for what they look like.

people are just thoughtless "shoppers" mainly.

Very interesting statement, holds a lot truth.........

That's only true for the males.

For the females, there's a third axe that should be added: Wealth

I don't really care about wealth. Maybe i should but I see that if some one is earning thier own money - why should some one come along and sponge it off them. Personally, I'd rather be in control of my own income and not live out of each others pockets. When you are a couple - you share but there needs to be an element of respect. I would not use some one for their money. That is not what I am looking for in a partner.

I want my partner to be my best friend forever. We will always care and look out for each other. Some-one is genuine and that I can trust. They have to be physically attractive to me and compatiable personality.

With no abuse or dysfunctional behaviours that is just going to make my life difficult. That is not worth it otherwise and I'd rather be alone.

I just want to love some-one and be happy. I don't want a relationship were I am hurt and that's it - I have had enough of this. I say "I never want to see you again." They come back time and time again. I meant what I said - you shouldn't have treated me like that and it's over. They know.

I use to be a player or not really. I just never took relationships that seriously. I do now because men infuriate me in that they always win or think they do. Just because they are physically stronger. I can bring them down with words in seconds. Maybe I should keep my mouth shut but no, they just

If you think you can control me - don't be stupid. I am for along time not a b***h. I don't like playing games but you can only push me so far. I won't
have anything to do with them never again. It is too late - they regret.

It is so dangerous to be with men that have temper and can be violent. I had a partner like this - that even other men knew not to get on the wrong side. I liked him so I didn't want to. He was very intelligent, mature and I respected him. He was very attractive.
However, if there was a problem - I knew to get out of his way. It isn't nice to feel scared like this and it isn't ok to pretend there is no problem - no
matter how much you like them.

^^ no need to be so defensive. I totally understand the wealth issue , it's also illogical to get married with a broken man. Any reasonable female would think about the financial security of her future children , no?

In laymen's terms, a Math/engineering term for "Does not exist"...

Thanks, ToadOfSteel I am familiar with the maths term - I was meaning in the grouping of people (like you had F-buddy's etc!

How about the following equivalnet of Null set in people form:

"Figment of your imagination"

or

"The Hollywood concept which leads to many people remaining single"

Okay i am just being cheeky!


Actually true for both sexes. Trust me plenty of men who now rate wealth in women. It is when they mention material things/ jobs you (i.e. women) have for no good reason! It is a new breed of men, who are quite happy to be the "trophy boyfriend"! So equality is finally happening!