Got a girls nummber. Now what?

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A girl gave me her number. This was at last minute as she was leaving the room. She said, Maybe we go see a movie some time. Would this be considered a date?

The thing to do here is.... don't call her.

Um don't take my advise...

"Really, Mr. Anderson... What is the point of a phone call if you are unable to speak?"

Anyway, her mention of a movie makes it sound like it could be a date, I don't know...

Last edited by Cyberman on 08 Feb 2009, 2:38 am, edited 1 time in total.

it's not a date until you call her and tell her when you'll pick her up for dinner and a movie. if dinner goes well suggest that the two of you watch a particularly good dvd at your place after the meal.

You should wait three days to avoid coming off as desperate.

This type of this is so much out of my element.

I did that once, and it still wasn't a date...

Make it clear from the beginning... use the term date frequently and often... otherwise.. man you just don't know.

I guess if you respond too quickly or come on too strongly, then she might be put off or lose interest. If you respond too late, she may write you off as disinterested. Where's the sweet spot in this model? I don't know. It's a difficult problem, but you can't spend your time always second guessing yourself. You can't be walking on eggshells if a relationship is to work. Some people deliberately keep narrow the range of your responses to which they will respond favorably, and if so, it's their problem.

Um... I think you call her.

Anyway, if you like her, go for it. You might want to wait a day or two, but be sure to do what feels right to you (if such a thing exists.) You're the closest to this situation, after all.

Hey, congratulations on the number!

And yeah, definitely call her. Dinner and a movie is a classic date, and you don't have to converse during the movie. If you do the movie first you'll have that to talk about during dinner, as well as all the usual "getting to know you" stuff - siblings, reason for choice of career/college major & are you enjoying it, where grew up, that kind of stuff, as well as comments on the food, decor, etc.

If dinner seems like too much time together, maybe you could suggest coffee somewhere afterwards instead, especially if the movie showing runs kinda late. I think you should ask if she's eaten already before suggesting coffee, and have the money for dinner in case she says she hasn't.

I'm sorry if I'm insulting your intelligence here. I'm just really excited for you. Dating can be such a great adventure.

As far as I know, when Americans tell you the line "so we can watch a movie or hang out some time", they don't actually mean it. I found that out because in Mexico, we just give the phone and that's it. And we always give the cell phone unless it doesn't picks up signal at home.

Still, good to see you got a girl's phone. I don't see much of them in school (telecomms engineering has an abysmally high disproportion of men to women), so I have to say, way to go.

I'd suggest you wait 3-4 days before you give her a call though. Less than that will seem desperate, more than that will seem uninterested. You'll be able to leave that kind of thoughts later, but this is still a nascent relationship and you still need to follow average social rules.

Don't ask an internet forum, call her and ask.

That took guts. She said it, flat out, in Standard English, that she wants a date. I never did that. Don't get too excited, you might not get a second date, but for now, you're in.

No way! 24 hours is more than cool enough. SHE gave you HER phone. One call is not going to make you seem desperate. If anything, she's sitting by the phone right now, waiting and cussing at herself for taking such a risk.

It's Sunday, so she might be home. That would make it easy. What movies are playing locally? And regardless of the outcome of that conversation, have some idea of how to hang up gracefully (need to do chores or homework or something).

The only problem is, if she's not there, do you leave a message, and when can you try to call again? That's harder. I hate leaving messages, for any reason, and I'm not even thinking about dating. You have no way of knowing whether the message got through. Machines malfunction, family members space out...

I wouldn't leave the SAME KIND of message more than once.
Either the machine works or it doesn't.
Either little brother is reliable or he is not... No point in asking him twice.

i'm an NT and it's definitely a request for a date. I would make it a lunch date and a matinee movie so it doesn't seem so -date like.-
Call her to set up a time and, if you're bold enough, ASK HER if it's a date or a buddy-hang-out and see what she says.